This article and video are going to tell you everything you need to know about How To Talk To Women! Plus, I have a special surprise for you at the bottom of this page. Promise not to skip ahead 😉
I was on the phone yesterday, with one of my favorite private coaching clients and we got onto the topic of How To Talk To Women. He and I had worked on attractive conversation in the past, but now he was on/at a new level.
He was past the flirtation/banter stage and wanted to know how to make a connection through conversation on a date.
Lucky for him, I had just watched this weeks episode of The Bachelorette (An ABC reality show) where they showed a perfect example of this very topic.
Video is posted below as well as my commentary:
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To be honest, Aimes or however you spell his name, was not a guy that would have stood out to me. Every time I saw him in the earlier episodes I would think “that guy is still around. Vote him OFF”. Sure he's cute, but he seemed like a dud. Obviously the product of creative editing by the producers.
BUT – once I saw this scene that really showed his personality, I instantly fell in love with him. Seriously. My husband was beside me (I forced him to watch) and I said out loud “OMG he is amazing”. Of course that made my husband perk up and pay attention 😉
The questions he asks, the comments he makes and the way that he presents himself scream “I've got my shit together”. He listened, shared, connected, made little jokes, showed appreciation for the Bachelorette, but most importantly respected himself. You could tell that he wasn't just trying to impress her, he was also trying to evaluate whether or not this was the right girl for him. Super sexy!
The questions you ask a woman on a date, say a lot about who you are. And the way you respond to the questions say even more about you.
Here is what I would like you to do:
What To Do – Write down a list of 10 interesting, non-traditional questions
Why? – The reason you want to do this is so that you have the questions in your “back pocket” at all times. No fumbling to produce magic.
Note – Make sure these questions correspond with what you are trying to find out about this woman. Meaning they have some attachment to your values and your indicators of value. They can't be bulls*&t questions that sound fancy but have absolutely no meaning to you.
The list that you put together is your list of questions that you can use on your first date to explore the woman sitting across from you. These questions will help put you at ease, because you won't be stumbling for conversation. They will also help you in your evaluation process of deciding whether or not this woman is for you. Remember you are asking these questions for the answers, not just to fill space and seem interesting.
I would love for you to watch this video a few more time to really understand and see what exactly Aimes is doing to build attraction with The Bachelorette. Then do the following:
Step 1: Do the assignment/exercise I gave you above
Step 2: Use it on your next date
Step 3: Report back on what happens. I guarantee you will see different results than you have ever seen before including: Women becoming more attached to you, women opening up more to you and women wanting to see you again.
I want to offer you the chance to practice your new conversation skills on me. 🙂
You and I can create your list of questions together and then you can practice them on me. I will tell you if what you are asking and talking about is right, wrong, attractive or turning me off completely Click here to find out more.
Improve your conversation skills with women right now!