Marni here, your personal wing girl and in this article, we are going to discuss texting in 2020.
What to text?
How to text?
When to text?
You’re going to learn all of that and even more in this article, so stay tuned.
It’s been a hard year for all of us because of the coronavirus. We couldn’t go out, socialize and meet new people. It made dating even more challenging, especially for guys who don’t know how to text.
Even before COVID-19, online dating was booming.
Apps like Tinder made it easier than ever before to connect with single women in your area, and yet some men struggle with that to this day.
They may find an attractive girl online and watch her profile for hours, wondering how to start the conversation. When they finally decide to engage, they text her something stupid that destroys their chances of ever meeting this girl.
You wouldn’t believe how many messages I receive from awesome guys who don’t know to text the women they like to get dates.
That’s why I decided to create this article – to help all of you learn how to start texting, how to escalate and how to get dates.
You won’t have to think for hours about how to open only to get rejected immediately.
You won’t miss out on dates just because you didn’t know how to escalate properly.
You’ll no longer be left at “seen.”
If you want to learn more about texting and online game, this article is for you.
Let’s get right into it.
How to Open
Here is where most men fail by making one of two mistakes:
- They don’t send anything because they are afraid of looking stupid.
- They send a generic text like “What’s up?” making them look boring and uninteresting.
However, these men both have the same problem – they don’t know what their goal is. This is critical when it comes to texting. You should know what you want from the conversation before you start texting a girl.
Are you just checking in or you want to go on a date?
You should have the answer to this question before chatting with her, so you know what to do.
Another thing you need to remember is this – you text her because you want to meet her, not because you like texting her. A lot of guys screw this up, thinking that the more they conversate with a girl online, the better the situation is. As your personal wing girl, I can tell you one thing – they couldn’t be more wrong.
First of all, you look like a man who has nothing better to do than to text her and that makes you look needy and desperate. Second, you lose a valuable opportunity to connect with the girl on a deeper level.
Think about it.
If a girl is sharing something personal with you online, she doesn’t risk anything. You’re just some guy in her phone who she can keep texting while she goes on with her life. If she shares the same thing with you in person, then you can escalate, offer her support and get some level of intimacy.
That’s where your mind should be – making girls comfortable, so they can talk to you in person as well as online.
The last thing you should know before you read more about the opener is when to text the girl. That largely depends on the context.
If you have met her the same day, text her the following day while you’re still fresh in her mind. If it takes a couple of hours for her to respond to your messages, but you respond in minutes, you need to change your approach. Make sure you wait 30 minutes to an hour to answer her text, so you don’t look like someone who has nothing other to do.
Now, that you have the right mindset, let’s start with the first text.
Sending the first text to the girl they like must be one of the most nervous moments in any guy’s life. Big, strong, masculine men can look like high-school girls, trying to figure out “the perfect” opener. However, they make the classic mistake of thinking that they should create instant attraction.
Remember – when you text, you want to create interest, not attraction. You need her interest, so you can meet in person and then you can create attraction.
Let’s break this down.
What’s “the perfect” text opener?
It’s anything that separates you from the other guys in her phone, hitting on her. Never text something like “What’s up?” or “How are you doing?” This puts you in the “I’m never going to bother opening his message” category.
Your first text should be something about her. Nowadays, people don’t get to talk as much as we are used to, and everybody’ favorite subject is themselves. So, you should start with something short and sweet about her.
It should reflect your personality, your uniqueness, your interesting way of seeing her. You can send her something like “Did you know what I found most interesting about your __?”
Fill in the blank with whatever comes to mind – her picture, her profile, something she said. It doesn’t really matter as long as it related to her. Just so you know, that opener has a 95% success rate, so you can count on it when it really matters.
Now, that you know how to start the conversation, let’s move on to how to escalate properly to move closer to a meeting.
How to Escalate
There is a big misconception about escalation via text.
Most men think that sending something sexual out of the blue is going to move the conversation in that direction. They couldn’t be more wrong. While having sexual texts isn’t bad, they shouldn’t come without any context.
Here’s a way to think about escalating – every text you send that moves you closer to date is an escalation.
Yes, it’s that simple.
Let’s give you a few examples.
For instance, let’s say you have been chatting with a girl for a while, but you can’t seem to move the conversation in any interesting direction.
You may feel like it’s a dead end. And if you feel that way, that means the girl is thinking the same and is getting bored. However, there is still something you can do to introduce a little spark in the conversation.
A quick text like “Hey, this made think of you” and send her something that’s relevant to either her or both of you. It can be anything – a meme, a cool event you can attend or an article about something she is interested in.
Now, you’re in business.
Every time the conversation goes dead, you can restart it by sending something valuable to her. Then, you should aim every text to have a flirty spin on it. Straight up answers are boring and generic. There is nothing interesting about them.
But you can always make a flirty spin on an answer that sets the tone right.
If she shares how she doesn’t like cats, you don’t say “Yes, me too” but something like “Wow, I guess we are not meant to be.”
See what I did there?
It’s a simple text that makes her chase you.
It keeps her engaged and interested in you.
Now that you know to escalate properly, let’s move on the final part – getting dates.
How to Get Dates
At this part of the conversation, guys make two mistakes that kill their chances:
- They don’t invite a girl that’s clearly into them on a date.
- They invite a girl they like out of the blue, not knowing her plans.
Let’s break each of these down.
The first mistake is a classic one – guys keep texting a girl without trying to get a date. That’s a huge missed opportunity because sooner or later, the conversation is going to become cold because no one is trying to move the things further along.
You’re either going to become boring for her, or just her texting buddy, and we both know that you don’t want that.
The other mistake is inviting the girl on a date without knowing her schedule. Guys will invite a girl to a Taco Tuesday out of nowhere and then wonder why she rejects them. You can’t simply drop a date invitation without checking in first. So, the best way to get dates is to have a process that builds towards a meeting.
If the conversation is going well, she is responsive, and it’s clear she likes you, it’s time to make plans for a date.
First, ask her about her schedule. What is she going to do this week? Then, if she is available, text her something like: “Are you an adventurous person?” She will say “Yes” because adventurous means different things for different people, but all of us think we are adventurous in some way.
Then, ask text her a simple question like: “Are you interested in meeting a cute boy that may like you?” She will say “Yes” and then you can invite her on a date.
Yes, it’s that easy.
Now you know how to turn texts into dates, so start practicing and keep me posted. I want to know how this article has helped you improve your game.
Before we finish, I want to ask you something.
Do you want to learn more about online game?
How to build your profile on Tinder, Facebook and Instagram?
How to create messages that keep the girls engaged throughout the whole interaction?
If that’s something, you’d be interested in, my responsibility as your personal wing girl is to share a resource with you that’s going to be incredibly helpful for your online game.
- Build intrigue texting online.
- Create a social media profile that gets women excited about texting you.
- Communicate with women, so they feel comfortable and safe around you during these difficult times.
If you want to learn all of that and much more, Click here to check it out.
Thank you for taking the time to read this article.
Talk to you soon,