Hope you've been enjoying this mini-series on the O.S.A Method.
If you've missed any of my blogs the last few days, then you should definitely go back and read 'em.
They're that good.
But here's a quick recap of what the first two parts of the O.S.A Method before I give you the last piece of the puzzle:
1. Observation: Make a statement about something you're observing in your environment. Whether that be her or otherwise. Think of it like being a 5-year-old kid again who's intrigued and curious about everything.
2. Sharing: Share something personal (opinion, thought, etc.) about the observation you've just made. If observation is giving her a piece of your reality, then sharing is letting her come along for the ride.
Obviously, there were a lot more intricacies (which is why you should go see parts 1 & 2 on my blog, duh!) but this the gist of the first two parts.
But here comes the 3rd and some would say most important part of the whole enchilada.
Part 3: Ask A Question
You're a one-man show during the first two phases, but part 3 is about bridging the gap and getting her invested into the interaction.
Asking a question makes sure that this becomes a two-way dialogue instead of you blabbing on and on without any input from her.
Again, this whole OSA Method is to get the conversation started so you can find out if you're interested in her.
And the only way to do that is to get her to open her mouth.
Now, there are a few things guys get wrong when asking questions so here's what you should and shouldn't do:
- DO ask open-ended questions. Use the 5 W's like journalists use to get the best interviews they can out of their subject. Who, what, where, why and how.
- DON'T continue to ask questions that begin in “Do you…?” as in “Do you come here often?”. This makes it extremely easy for her just to say yes or no – and completely block you off from further conversation. I understand it is hard always to come up with an open question so you may need to use “Do you…” at first, but don't follow up with another “Do you…” question.
These two rules make sure that you don't go into “interview mode” and bombard her with question after question that she can just answer with yes or no.
Let's take you through a full example of the whole process in action:
You see a girl in the mall with a scarf in 90-degree weather.
You're thinking to yourself about how crazy hot it is, and that scarf is just ridiculous.
So as you pass her by you tell her, “What the hell? A scarf in this heat? (← Observation)
I'm wearing shorts and a tank top, and I'm STILL about to pull a Magic Mike because I'm so hot! (← Sharing)”
(Obviously you don't have to use a stripper reference but you get bonus points if you do in my book 😉
And here comes the ask:
“How are you even dealing with it right now?”
Bam, conversation started, and she can't answer yes or no because… it just wouldn't make sense.
You've just injected yourself directly into the middle of a conversation, and she can't put any barriers up because again – it wouldn't make sense.
Simple and extremely effective. It's why I love things like O.S.A so much.
They're easy to remember and so much better to use in real-life situations.
Now there's a whole second part to this OSA Method, which I call the LCA Method.
They work hand in hand because while OSA cracks open the door and lets you get a foot in… Once you decide you're interested in a girl, you use the LCA Method, to literally, get her ADDICTED to you.
I could have used any adjective, but addiction is literally what happens in her brain when you use this stuff.
You can learn about it in my program “How To Become A Man Women Want” here:
Make sure you check it out.
I hope you enjoyed the mini-series and let me know if you use it.