If you’re struggling to get a woman you’re interested in into your bed, chances are your conversation skills need work. You’re not creating an EMOTIONAL connection. Read THIS to learn how to fix that,and greatly improve your chances with woman.
It’s always interesting when I hear a guy’s take on where he’s screwing up with women. Like today, for example. A new student was telling me how he goes on dates with women but it never leads anywhere. When I asked why, he said it was because he felt uncomfortable going for the first kiss.
But when I had him rewind further, I could see there was actually something else going on.
“Tell me about the conversation,” I asked. “What kind of things are you talking about on your dates?”
And then he gave me a rundown of a bunch of questions that he typically asks:
- How long have you lived in this city?
- What do you like the most about it?
- What do you do for fun?
- Do you have brothers and sisters?
- Where have you traveled?
Hopefully you can see why this isn’t great. As I told my student, these type of interview style questions do nothing to spark attraction. They’re not creating that fun and flirtatious energy that we crave with a man.
Every guy asks us these questions. Which is why we find them so boring. We’re not looking to exchange FACTS with you on a first date. We want to exchange EMOTIONS.
If you take us on a date and interview us, all you’re doing is talking us out of going to bed with you. Now, at this point my student told me he did have some more “fun” questions that he asked. Like, if you could have one superpower — X-ray vision or able to fly — which would you choose?
But when I asked how he was responding to her answer, it also fell flat.
If a woman said she’d rather have X-ray vision, he’d tell her that’s cool but it’d be better to fly. While this might be slightly better than his other conversations, it’s still not doing anything to spark sexual tension.
Instead, what if he took her response and used it to banter with her?
For example, he could say something like, “Hmmm X-ray vision. Why does that not surprise me?” (Said with a knowing smirk.)
Or perhaps, “Interesting. So what would your superhero name be… Captain Voyeur? Little Miss Pervert? Which of those is more your style?”
These are just a few of many ways you could respond to playfully tease her while adding some sexual energy to the mix… all without explicitly talking about sex or doing anything creepy. This type of playful banter and flirting is how you spice up a conversation and create sexual tension…
And how you set yourself apart from almost every other guy that we meet.
You don’t need to overdo it with this stuff, by the way. Just a pinch every so often to spice things up is plenty.
Then once you’ve sparked the sexual tension and chemistry, you’re able to get away with some of the more boring questions. Because now that you’ve created an emotional response, we want to get to know you more. So if you want to quickly create strong attraction with the women you meet, knowing how to banter is a critical skill.
Just getting good at this one thing can make a night and day difference to your dating and sex life. If you want to discover how to master it — plus see a ton of real life examples — then you need to go and check out the new Banter Guide.
Guys are already writing to me everyday with crazy success stories since they started using it. So go check it out here and you could be next.
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