Touch is one of the most powerful ways to connect with a woman and there are some best spots to touch a woman that you should know. In fact, without it, you can never escalate with her sexually. And you’ll almost always end up in the friend zone.
The problem is: that most men are afraid to initiate touch. Especially in this MeToo era. I get so many emails from guys telling me how they get anxious when it comes to touching a girl. They don’t wanna be creepy or make girls uncomfortable. And that’s a good concern to have.
But initiating touch and escalating it is easier than you think. If done right, it will create a lot of trust and attraction. That’s why I wanna talk about the 11 places women LOVE to be touched and how to make sure that she’s never uncomfortable with your touch.
After reading this, you’ll never be afraid to initiate touch with a woman again. There will be no doubt in your mind about what to do and what not to do. And you’ll find it much easier to connect with women physically and build sexual attraction.
So before I get into where to touch a woman, I wanna give you three rules for touching a woman. These two rules will ensure that you touch women in the right way and never make them too uncomfortable. As long as you keep these three rules in mind, I don’t think you’ll ever creep a woman out or push her away because of your touch. So here we go…
Rule #1: Test & Improvise
Now I’m gonna give you a bunch of places and a bunch of ways to touch a woman. When you start touching women in those spots and those exact ways, I want to keep a note of her comfort level. For example, if you touch her waist, is she okay with that? Are there any signs of discomfort on her face? Does she squirm or move away? If there’s any sign of discomfort, you gotta take it down a notch. She’s not ready for that level of touch yet.
So you stick to the more platonic spots to touch her. Like her hands or arms. It’s all about testing and improvising. Touch, she how she reacts, then decide whether to stick or twist. It’s very simple. You’re just adjusting your touch based on her response. And women will appreciate that.
Rule #2: Commit
Do you know when a touch becomes awkward or creepy? When you half-ass it. If you seem unsure while touching a woman, she’s gonna be unsure about you. If you think that it’s wrong or bad to touch her, then she’s gonna assume the same thing. People accept what you project. A lack of commitment shows discomfort and nervousness. So you need to commit. Don’t half-ass it. If you’re gonna touch her, touch her. If she’s bothered by it, remember Rule #1 and improvise.
Rule #3: The 3 Second Rule
When you touch a girl, don’t linger on for too long. Most forms of touch should last around 1-3 seconds. Of course this doesn’t really apply to the more sexual forms of physical contact like kissing and stuff… But when things are not that serious between the two of you… it’s best to keep your touches short & simple. One to three seconds. Not more than that. That will make sure that you’re coming on too strong and making her uncomfortable. And that’s it.
As I said before, as long as you keep these three rules in mind, you’ll be fine when touching a woman. You have nothing to worry about. So with that out of the way, now let’s get into the “Where to Touch” part. I’m gonna give you the 11 best spots to touch a woman. Take note of these so you remember them the next time you meet a woman. Let’s start.
This is one of the safest and easiest places to touch a woman. When you meet her for the first time, look her in the eye, smile and give her the first handshake. If she says something funny or something you agree with, give her a playful high five. Then if you’re handing her something, let your hands brush up against each other. Another example is if you wanna tease her a little, you could compare hand sizes with her and make some joke about it.
If you’re in a conversation and joking around, you can even take her hand and do a fake palm read. Just make something up. Something absurd or maybe even a little sexual. It can be a great way to flirt. And well is a great way to initiate touch. The best part is, no one really minds being touched on the hands. So it’s the perfect way to break the touch barrier. And build physical comfort.
At first glance, the arms might not seem like a particularly sexy part of the body. In fact, it can probably seem very platonic. However, studies about sexual touching have turned up some interesting results. In one report, researchers from Aberdeen University discovered that two-thirds of women agreed to dance if a man touched her arm while asking. By contrast, men who asked without touching were only successful half of the time. The study also showed that women were more likely to give their number to men who touched their arms when asking.
So don’t underestimate the power of touching her arm. Women often do it to men when they’re interested in them. It may be a subtle move, but it can say and do a lot. And there are plenty of ways to touch her arm as well. Maybe if you guys are joking around, you can give her a playful nudge on the arm. If she’s telling you a meaningful emotional story, you can touch her arm and nod showing that you are empathising with her.
You can even stand or sit close to her and let your arms touch. The opportunities are endless. When you get the chance, take it. Like hands, touching on the arm is also super platonic and socially acceptable, so you don’t need to worry about anything.
This is a safe and easy spot to touch a girl. Especially when things are not that serious. Touching her on the shoulder doesn’t invade her private space. But it does give a hint that you might be interested in her. Touching her on the shoulders could be as simple as a gentle tap to get her attention. Or, If you’re at a bar or club dancing together, you could place a hand on her shoulder. There are lots of ways to do this. The point is, it’s a nice place to touch. And most women won’t have a problem with it. This means it’s an easy way to build physical comfort.
This is another fantastic place to touch a woman. And trust me, we really love it. But where on her back should you touch her? And where should you avoid touching her? Well, if it’s too high, she might think you just wanna be friends because that’s a very friend-like touch to make. If you go too low, she might think you’re a pervert trying to grab her ass. So instead, a great rule of thumb is to touch her around her shoulder blade or a little lower. That’s ideal.
There’s something so comforting and attractive about a guy when he puts his arm or hand on a woman’s back. Maybe if you’re guiding her, leaning in to talk, or something like that, it’ll give her butterflies. It’ll make her feel like you’re sheltering her and being protective, and it’s adorable.
Many guys think it’s inappropriate to touch a woman’s legs. And yes, it can be when done wrong. So how to make sure you don’t do it wrong? Well, when things are not yet serious between you two, avoid her inner thighs, the back of her knees or going too close to her crotch area. When you’re getting to know each other, it’s best to stick to a few gentle touches on her upper thighs. Near her knees. You can do this while sitting next to her as you talk to each other.
Or if you sit close to each other, you can even let your legs graze against each other. The thing to keep in mind is Rule #3 of touching. The 3-second rule. Don’t linger on too long. The legs are not a platonic area. It’s a little more flirty and sexual. While touching her leg will give her a good sign of her interest, letting it linger for too long can make her think you’re a pervert.
It’s actually super cute when a guy plays with your hair, or if you just kind of brush her hair, maybe tuck it out of her face or behind her ear. Those little things make her feel feminine and pretty. It makes her smile on the inside and thinks, “Oh, he really likes my hair”. Obviously, don’t overdo it. And be sure to gauge how she reacts. Some women don’t like their hair messed up, especially if they worked really hard to make it look good for the date with you. But overall, it’s an extremely cute way to touch her.
Studies show that women on average prefer a man who’s confident and assertive. And if you watch my channel, you’ve heard me say this a million times. Well, what you may not know is that touching her waist is actually a great way to show assertiveness. And there are many ways to do this. For example, if you’re standing next to her, you can put your hand on her waist. If you’re hugging her, you can put your arms around her waist.
If you’re on the dance floor you can grab her by the waist and give her a playful tug. And of course, when you kiss her, you can put your hands on her waist. It’s a really powerful and assertive thing to do. But at the same time, it’s really cute as well. It will make her feel protected and very feminine, which will obviously drive up her attraction to you.
The neck is a highly sensitive area for women. Most women love to be touched or kissed on the neck. It can send shivers down her spine. Just don’t be too aggressive. If you hold her neck, don’t put it in a death grip. If you’re kissing the neck, don’t get over-enthusiastic about it. Take it slow. Be gentle. It will turn her on like crazy. And it can be a great tool in your foreplay arsenal.
This might be a surprise to you but… Touching, kissing and even lightly biting the earlobes of your woman will up the bliss factor for her. These delicate, soft lobes are highly sensitive and most women thoroughly love the sensation of having a man’s lips on them. You can nibble around the outside of the rest of her ear as well, but for courtesy’s sake avoid jamming your tongue inside her ear. This is yet another great tool for your foreplay toolbox. Stimulating her earlobes will really drive her crazy and eager to take things to the next level.
Touching her inner thighs without venturing into the vaginal area will make for an excellent tease that is sure to get her revved up. Use your hands and mouth to caress and kiss the insides of her thighs, getting super close to her ultimate pleasure spot, but pulling back before going all the way. Trust me, you’ll send shivers down her spine, make her toes curl and have her begging for more.
There is no way to overstate the seductive power of a really good foot massage. Not only does a foot rub feel amazing – it lets a woman know her man truly cares about her well-being. If you wanna do it right and grab some massage oil or lotion. And don’t forget to pay some attention to her toes, ankles and the sides of her feet too. Additionally, some women really enjoy having their toes sucked, but many others find it repulsive. So you can ask about that as well. And see if she’s into it. If she is, it could be another great way to pleasure her body.
But anyways, that brings us to the end of our list. Now you know 11 great spots to touch a woman. Some are more platonic. And some are highly sexual. To get to the sexual stuff, you need to make sure she’s ready to take things to that next level with you. I have an amazing program called the F Formula which can show you how to get her to that stage almost effortlessly. You can check it out by clicking the link in the description below.
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