There is one flirting technique that truly stands out from all the rest, because it accomplishes 3 things at once… 3 things that women need to feel in order to become attracted to you. I discovered how effective this technique is with women and I wanted to share it with you, because it is actually super easy to do. Check it out…
If you’ve been following me for a while, you’ll know how much I believe in the power of flirting. It’s without a doubt one of the greatest skills you can ever learn to transform your life with women…
And it’s a subject I get A LOT of questions about, from men who haven’t yet invested in my proven F Formula program. (Because those that have, know exactly how to use flirting to create red hot sexual tension that women want to act on.) Now, one of the main issues guys tell me they struggle with is how to start flirting… without it seeming weird or out of place.
Should you compliment her?
Say something sexual?
Stand closer to her or even touch her?
There’s a lot of confusion about how to take that first step. So today I want to share with you a super simple technique that ANYONE can use to get the ball rolling, and consistently gets great reactions.
But here’s the deal:
I want you to actually go and TRY THIS OUT for yourself. Don’t just read it and think that sounds cool, but never put it into action.
Agreed? Great, so here’s the technique:
Simply pay attention to anything a woman says or does and look for ways you could misinterpret that as her being into you… And then flip the script and accuse HER of flirting with YOU. Let’s take a look at an example of how this could play out.
She says: Have you got any plans for the weekend yet?
You say: Oh my God, you’re SO trying to hit on me right now.
She says: Haha what? Noooo, I didn’t even mean it like that.
You say: That’s what makes it so sneaky, jellybean.
She says: Haha, why am I a jellybean?
You say: Because I said so, that’s why. Now stop flirting with me or I might have to start flirting back.
Now, this is probably very different to the way you’d normally answer that question. And on the face of it, this conversation may not even make a lot of sense to you. But to us, this is FUN and CHALLENGING. Two things we don’t get nearly enough of when talking to men. It completely shifts the dynamic of a conversation from platonic and boring… to sexy and exciting.
However if we dig a little deeper, there’s another dynamic at play here also. And that leads me to my bonus tip that I want to share with you. (Because I’m always aiming to over-deliver and make sure you get plenty of value from my emails.) In this example you’re also playfully establishing your masculine dominance.
Firstly, you’re accusing her of hitting on you. Secondly, you’re giving her a playful nickname. And thirdly, “because I said so, that’s why” frames you as the authority figure over her. (Like how her father may have spoken to her when she was a child.)
Plus, you’re teasing that you may start flirting back with her (even though you already are) and that creates more excitement and anticipation. So there’s a lot happening here psychologically, but it’s very under the radar because it’s wrapped up in a fun and playful package.
When we laugh at things like this that you say, subconsciously we’re accepting your frame and it makes us more attracted to you. For this to be effective though, you need to stand your ground and not cave if we challenge you back. Because if you fail to do this, we see that you have a weak frame and it turns us off.
So let’s take the line where she says, “Why am I a jellybean?”
If you respond with uncertainty, you’re toast. “Oh, um, I don’t know, I just thought that… never mind” is the equivalent of strapping a chastity belt on us and throwing away the key. You need to have confidence that we want you to challenge us back…
And you need to be comfortable creating and maintaining some TENSION. Because at times you may wonder if you’re being too provocative… Or even if you’re actually being kind of a dick.
But assuming you keep all of this playful — and have a smile or smirk on your face — you’re probably on the right track. Most men need to take more risks when talking to us to spark that sexual attraction that’s usually lacking. So try this out a few times to get the hang of it and notice the way women respond to you.
Not only does this work great in real life… but also over text and online dating apps too. And if you’d like my complete arsenal of flirting tactics, techniques and mindsets… Then you need to get your hands on my best-selling flirting program, The F Formula.
It leaves no stone unturned in how to flirt in a way that makes women want to date and sleep with you… And will turn you into a flirting god without having to learn anything complicated or unethical.
The last female friend you’ll ever need,