Are You Doing THIS Too Fast? If you want to go on more dates with women, then let me share a lesson with you from yesterday.
I was out at the park with my friend and her dog. We noticed a couple of teenage boys who were ogling a girl sitting on a bench, reading. It was obvious they wanted to go and talk to her, but were trying to work up the courage. Eventually one of them walks over and approaches her. She smiled and played with her hair, and I could see she liked him. About 30 seconds later, he pulls out his phone and she starts typing something — presumably her number.
Then he walked back over to his buddy and they high fived each other. Clearly he felt like he was The Man. Now for this kid, who looked about 16 or so, that was great. Taking action like that and getting a positive result will be great for his confidence.
But here’s the thing:
What might be okay when you’re a teenager, doesn’t always work so well when you’re a grown man. And I’m talking specifically about getting a woman’s number as being your main goal. This is something that I see ALL the time!
Guys will approach a woman and go out of their way to ask for her number as quickly as possible, as if it’s some kind of prize. And I can tell you from being on the other end of those kind of lightning fast interactions, it feels a little strange. Because here’s the thought that goes through our mind:
“Um, if you’re so interested in getting to know me, why don’t you actually talk to me now while I’m right in front of you?” It makes it feel like he’s more interested in getting our number as some kind of trophy, than he is in us as a person.
Perhaps it’s for some kind of validation. Or maybe he wants to brag to his friends that he got a bunch of numbers. Whatever the reason, it doesn’t make us feel like there’s a genuine connection there. Instead, the conversation should feel more organic, like you don’t have an agenda. It should be more about having fun and getting to know each other…
Then once you both feel there’s a spark there, it’s only natural to want to see each other again.
At this point, swapping numbers just becomes a given. It’s just a means to an end, which is to see each other again, rather than the end goal itself.
And then when you follow up, you rarely get those issues like women not texting you back or flaking on you. But if you’re getting rapid-fire numbers, with barely any conversation or connection, that’s when you’ll encounter problems. Because in this case, we don’t really have any feelings about you yet…
And you’ve then got to try and create attraction using only words on a screen (if you text)… or just your words and vocal tone (if you call). That’s why you should do as much as you can when you first meet. You can use other things like body language and facial expressions, touch, smell etc. to make a strong impression.
Now, if you don’t know how to make a strong impression when you approach a woman…
Or how to smoothly keep the conversation going in a way that creates attraction and makes us want to see you again, then obviously that needs to be fixed. I mean that’s really the foundation that your dating is built on. If it’s strong, everything else is 10X easier. If it’s weak, your results with women will always be on shaky ground.
That’s why The Approach Blueprint is responsible for helping so many men finally get the women they want. It tackles the biggest challenge most men face, and makes approaching crystal clear and simple… While giving you a blueprint that leads to getting numbers the right way so you actually get the woman, not just her number.
The last female friend you’ll ever need,