I always say that you have to have the mentality of a strong, confident, successful sales man to survive in the world of dating.
Why? Because dating and meeting women require you to have the ability to laugh in the face of rejection and realize that rejection is not a bad thing, it’s a great thing. Seriously.
A couple of month’s back I spoke at the Global Pick Up Conference with about 25 other men. Each of those men had a very similar story about how they rose to be a top expert in dating and meeting women. They attributed their success to their acceptance of rejection.
Their stories all went something like this: “I used to be the horrible with women. I didn’t get dates, I didn’t have sex and the only women whose attention I could get were a 6 or lower. So I started practicing. I went out every night, I approached trying a bunch of different styles and I figured out what worked for me. I got rejected over and over and OVER again and then suddenly things started clicking. Women started responding more favorably. I was still getting rejected but I was also getting accepted.”
And their stories build from there. They reveal how they didn’t learn to beat rejection but they learned to accept it, move past it and try again. Very similar to what successful salesmen do. Always remember the best of the best have all had failures.
I subscribe to several different online newspapers and I stumbled upon a great article this morning on Inc.com that talks about the psychology of successful people in sales. It labels them as Happy Losers. I loved this idea and it sparked this post.
I suggest you go read this article cause it has some great points about how to handle rejection. To read the full article go to: Inc.com