First I need to explain something about women.
As I have said in many of my letters to you before, most women don't actually know what they want.
That is why a great tactic to use with women is to let them know you get them and understand them. This tactic has to be sincere or else it will not work.
Read the email below and my response.
Date: Sunday, February 8, 2009, 3:36 PM
Hey Wing Girls, hows it going?
I've got a pretty short question here, but i've asked a few people bout this and no-one quite knows an answer, so thought who better to come to!
I've recently got speaking to a girl, and the topic of ‘what you look for in another person' for a possible relationship came up. All she said was to me was ‘there will just be something about him…'
Now, i'm just wondering, what is this something?
Is there something in particular that women look for in a guy?
I know its a short question, but its one i know us guys would be grateful for a bit of an insight on this!
Hope to hear from you soon,
RESPONSE TO EMAIL:
Oh the fantasies that women hold in their heads and compare all their realities to. So confusing for men.
I really find this question interesting. The answer is there is no particular “something”… but when women make grand statements like this they are asking someone else to fill in the blanks.
I am going to compare this statement made by a woman to you placing an order at McDonald's to help you better understand.
When you go to McDonalds and place your order you usually tell the person exactly what you want right?
You don't say just give me “something” that you know will make my mouth water and truly satisfy me.
If you were to do this the 16 year old boy/girl would look back at you with a shocked face of panic. How are they to know what that “something” is that would satisfy you if you don't even know.
This would be a challenging task for anyone and most people would not even try to satisfy you.
What if that same girl/boy at the register were to say “I know just the “something” you are looking for and need”?
You would probably respect and trust them forever.
This is exactly what women are looking for. Someone that can help direct them through all of the mess that is going on inside their heads.
As women we want so many things that it is hard for us to organize all of our wants.
Now back your situation.
What this girl is saying is that she wants someone who is direct, controlled and self assured and can pass this energy onto her.
She wants someone that can help her see what it is that she wants.
I know, as a woman, that this is what I would want.
A good response to her comment would be:
“I know exactly what you are looking for. You want a man that just gets you and understands your quirks and gets your ……..”.
Something like that but probably a lot more brief and direct.
As well it needs to be targeted towards the woman you are speaking with.
This type of statement is sexy, self assured and confident. It shows the woman that you are noticing “something” about her that she probably has not noticed about herself.
Insight is the key to your success.
As long as you don't go over the top and can still remain intelligent and subtle, sentences like the one above will work wonders on any woman.
MARNI'S COMMENTS (TO YOU):
XXX is not the first person to come to me with a question like this. I know this is a common confusion for most men.
As it should be.
Now you know that in the future there is no need to be caught off guard by such a statement.
Embrace it, relax and respond appropriately.