It’s no secret that women are attracted to men who radiate a strong masculine energy. And there’s ONE habit you absolutely need to master to unleash that masculine energy.
Today I’ve decided to do a full explanation of this one masculine habit that drives women wild. The habit I’m talking about is emotional control. And as you read this, you will discover:
What it means to have emotional control and why most guys struggle with it… The real reason why women are drawn to men who have emotional control… And most importantly, 4 practical tips you should follow to build the habit of emotional control.
So first of all, what exactly is emotional control? Well, most guys think emotional control means not being emotional. But that’s a huge misconception.
As a normal human being, you cannot have zero emotions. And the more you try to suppress your natural emotions, the more it will hurt your mental health. As a normal human being you will experience all sorts of emotions.
And guess what? Most of the time you can’t even control what triggers these emotions in you. What emotional control actually means is that you don’t let your emotions dictate your actions.
For instance, if you’re angry, you don’t let that anger dictate your course of action. That’s the true essence of emotional control. It’s choosing your response to an emotion instead of reacting impulsively.
Now why is this habit so attractive to women? You see, women are wired to be much more emotional than men. We experience a roller coaster of emotions on a regular basis. And we act on our emotions more than you guys.
Attraction itself is based on emotions for women. You could be a tall, rich, handsome man with six pack abs — who in theory checks a woman’s logical boxes, but it doesn’t mean she will fall for you. Why?
Because we are primarily attracted to a man based on how he makes us feel. In other words, we act on our emotions. Like it or not, this is just how female nature works. Emotions dictate our actions. And we don’t have a big say in that.
Men on the other hand do have a say in it. Meaning, you are much more capable of exercising emotional control than us women. Therefore making you an ideal partner. This is why you’ll hear women say things like my man is my rock. Or I want my man to be my rock.
What that means is that… I want my man to be able to handle his emotions and mine. This brings us to the main question: How do you build emotional control?
And for that, I have 4 tips for you that you can apply right away. I suggest you understand and apply all five of these for best results. Starting with…
No Bad Emotions
Too many men ignore the way they feel because they are too ashamed or embarrassed to feel them. For example, many men are ashamed to feel nervous when talking to women. They want to feel confident. But since they are not feeling that way, they feel bad about what they are actually feeling.
Similarly, many guys feel ashamed of feeling sexually attracted to a woman. This happens because many men and women are shamed for their sexuality at a young age. They are told that emotions like sexual arousal are bad or wrong. And that stays with them over time.
Another common one for men is feeling extremely sad. Across cultures, men are told that they aren’t supposed to cry. So they feel ashamed when they feel an overwhelming amount of sadness. And ignore its existence. Or try to suppress it.
The problem is that the more you ignore or reject your emotions, the more they disturb you. Your emotional turmoil only gets worse. For instance, if you feel bad about feeling anxious, you only feel worse after that.
Similarly, if you feel bad about feeling sad, you keep feeling worse. Ignoring or rejecting your emotions doesn’t work. You have to own how you feel. Take responsibility. There’s nothing shameful or embarrassing about any emotion.
There’s an amazing quote from self-help author, Mark Manson, that says: “There is no such thing as a good or bad emotion — only good and bad reactions to emotions.”
And this is so true. Take this example. If you feel fear when you see a car coming at you on the road, you respond by stepping aside. And that keeps you alive. In this case, the emotion is fear and your response was to move and it protected you from an accident.
Now, say you feel scared to ask a girl out. So you chicken out and let her go date someone else. In this case, your emotion is the same. Fear. The same one that protected you from being hit by a car. But this time your response was a bad one. The moral of the story is, that emotions are neither bad nor good.
There’s no reason to be ashamed or embarrassed by them. It’s what you choose to do when you feel an emotion is what matters. Speaking of which…
Suggestions, Not Commands
You need to internalize the fact that emotions are merely suggestions, not commands. If you see an attractive girl but you feel nervous about talking to her… It doesn’t mean you can’t talk to her.
Your anxiety might suggest that you can’t, but it’s not a command you have to follow. You can walk up to her and start a conversation. Or you can let her pass by. You get to decide.
Similarly, if a girl isn’t replying to your texts, and your anger suggests that you should blast her phone with hateful texts and give her a piece of your mind… You have to realise that it’s only a suggestion. Not a command you need to follow.
You can give her time. Let her reach out. You could send her a playful text to re-engage her or you could go on and meet other women. You always have options. If you avoid flirting with a woman because you’re scared about offending or losing her altogether, it doesn’t mean you have to stay away from flirting.
You could start off with something light. Test the waters. See how she responds. And then build from there. If you take your anxiety’s suggestion to avoid flirting as a command, you will end up in the friend zone. Which is what happens to most men.
Emotions are only suggestions, not commands. You get to choose your action based on what you think is right or good for you at that moment. You don’t have to follow your impulse because you are in charge. Remember, you’re NOT a slave to your emotions.
Once you internalize that fact, you will find it much easier to respond to emotions, instead of reacting impulsively.
Allow It to Pass
The worst thing you can do when you feel a so-called “negative” emotion is try to change it. The more you try to change a negative emotion, like anger, frustration, fear, sadness, and so on, the more they will persist.
So the trick is to get comfortable feeling how you feel, and let your emotions pass on their own. And they will pass. After all, emotions are just a rush of chemicals in your body. That rush of chemicals will subside on its own if you simply let time pass.
For example, if you see a highly attractive woman and you feel intimidated by her, accept how you feel. Don’t try to change that. Go talk to her anyway. And with time, your anxiety, fear, nervousness, whatever you wanna call it, will subside.
Remember, it’s only a rush of chemicals. Just feel how you feel. Fully embrace the sensations in your body. And you will be okay with time.
If you’re going through a breakup or a girl you liked rejected you, let it hurt. Let yourself feel sad. Embrace the sensations in your body. And allow it to pass. The more comfortable you are feeling your feelings, the more power you have over it.
The Power of Breath
A deep breath is by far the fastest way to cool down your emotions. So whenever you feel an overwhelming amount of any negative emotion… Like an overwhelming sense of anger fear or sadness, your default response should be to take a deep breath. Think of it like an emergency protocol.
Overwhelming emotion means it’s time to take a deep breath. No thinking. A big slow inhale. And a big slow exhale. This will calm down your nervous system and let you think more clearly.
I could’ve gone even deeper into it, but this is a great starting point for any guy who wants to gain control over his emotions and unleash that raw, attractive masculine vibe.
If you wanna know more about cultivating a powerful masculine energy that attracts women on autopilot, check out the Masterclass I did with dating expert, Brian Begin.
In that masterclass, Brian and I show you how to tap into your masculine core when you interact with women… And trigger a powerful “whirlwind of attraction” that makes women crave you on a biological level.
The guys who attended this masterclass LIVE said it was unlike anything they’ve ever seen. It’s NOT your typical how-to-pick-up girls class with canned lines, routines, and manipulation. Instead, Brian shows you how to use presence work to unleash a strong masculine vibe that turns women on naturally.
He shows you how you can be powerfully attractive to women even if you’re not good-looking, tall, rich, or famous. And it all comes down to harnessing the raw attractive power of your masculine energy.
So if you’re interested in that, check out the masterclass. I’m sure you’ll love it.