Women know they need to date but they often do not enjoy the date. Men ask the same questions. You need to come up with a plan to make the date fun. If she enjoys herself she will want to see you again. Keep things casual yet fun.
“Dates” suck! If you’ve been texting with a woman but you’ve been struggling to get her to meet up with you, I’ll let you in on a little secret: Women HATE dates!
Going on a date is kinda like going to the DMV. Women know they have to go on dates… but most of the time, they suck! If you’ve struggled to get women to meet up with you for a date, remember that you have to overcome the memory of countless painful date experiences from her past.
The truth is, most guys are nervous and awkward, especially on a first date. Men tend to ask boring, polite questions… awkward silences… clumsy attempts to move in for the kiss… the weird questions guys ask to figure out how fast they can sleep with her… etc, etc.
So the best way to actually get her to meet up with you, is to make her realize that’s NOT what meeting up with you is going to be like!
Come up with a plan that sounds casual and fun.
Going to a “romantic dinner” is way too intense for most women, especially with a guy they barely know!
Invite her to a Sunday BBQ with you and your friends and tell her to bring her friends too. This is a great, low-pressure way to meet up with women. If she brings her friends, she knows she’s not risking awkward silences and other painful situations. And if she’s not having a good time, she knows she can leave without “ditching” you.
In this situation, she has a lot of upside. It sounds like fun. And almost no downside. There are so many things you can do. Go to a market, explore, go on adventures. Take her for ice cream. Go shoot some pool. Even just inviting her out for coffee or going to the bookstore together are great, simple date ideas.
Also, be flexible! Have a few ideas you can shoot her way. Maybe she doesn’t like coffee, so you don’t wanna ask her to meet up for coffee five times in a row.
And before you ask her out, find out if she has plans already. This gets you out of the painful cycle of “Oh how about Thursday? No? What about Friday?”
Work WITH her, figure out when you’re both free, and come up with a cool, exciting adventure you can go on together.
Finally, don’t treat text messaging as just trying to get her to meet you by asking her out all the time. Be normal, fun and casual and engage with her just like you would face to face. Make jokes, be playful, and show her that you can keep a normal conversation going.
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Rooting for ya!
Your Wing Girl,