Women absolutely crave men to come up to them and make them feel something. I'll explain…
Recently there was a great comment thread started on my Facebook page that started with this comment “Pssst, wanna know a secret? Girls want you to talk to them!!! Trust me I know.” Tons of guys responded back with positive responses like “Hell ya!” or “Don't share our secrets Marni” and then 1 guy started to make negative comments like this one:
“that is, if they allow the guy to approach them without writing them off or wondering “just what does he want from me”. If the guy can fathom all these hurdles, the girl might tolerate conversation.”
I'm not opposed to negative comments because that's where and when we all get a chance to learn. If we all agree with one another, we never learn anything new. But this one got me and the rest of my Facebook fans going before I even had a chance to respond.
Wanted to share one of the amazing comments back that clearly explains women. I have to admit, I could not have said it better myself.
“X, you seem like a super intelligent man and often that intellect can work against you. You are looking for linear logic and consistency because in the world of academia what is said and written means everything.
Women absolutely crave men to come up to them and make them feel something. Talking is just one mechanism to do that, so is picking her up and spinning her around, so is kissing her, so is the tone of your voice, so is what you wear and how you look (to a much lesser extent of course).
Feelings are everything.
“What do you want from me?” is social conditioning that all men want is sex, that they will use you up and spit you out. That they will lie to you to get etc. You counter that by demonstrating a willingness to enjoy the moment without preconceived notions. The moment you ask about her job and clearly don't care about the answer and aren't enjoying the moment it becomes apparent you are there for ulterior motives. That ulterior motive has no soul and no feeling and nothing good will come of it for either of you even if you did get sex. All feelings come from the moment.
We love women by how connected to feelings they are. It's ok that their words don't always reflect reality, they are far better at spotting liars and unsafe people than men ever will. Get in touch with your heart man, watch some Oprah and cry over the kids in Africa, watch the original Pride and Prejudice and feel yourself get swept away with the awesomeness of Mr. Darcy, you'll start to feel it.”