10 Things You Must Know About Beautiful Women

Here is my list of 10 Things Every Man Must Know About Quality, Beautiful Women:

1a)  They don’t have secret powers.

1b)  They don’t have secret knowledge that you don’t have.

2)  They don’t walk around with an attitude all the time.

3)  They aren’t a bunch of “stuck up bitches.”

4)  They do have the same insecurities and vulnerabilities as other women.

5)  They have brains and want to have interesting conversation — just like all the 5’s, 6’s and 7’s in the world.

6)  They don’t expect every guy to have Einstein’s brains George Clooney’s stunning good looks or Bill Gates’ money.

7)  They truly are interested in a guy’s ability to hold a decent conve

rsation, his confidence, his masculine presence and his ability to lead a woman.

8)  They don’t want to be approached with some compliment about their looks.

9) There is no right THING to say to a beautiful woman.

10)  Like all other women, beautiful women are just PEOPLE.

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  1. michael // April 30, 2011 at 9:18 am

    8) They don’t want to be approached with some compliment about their looks.

    ^ How do they want to be approached then? With a simple hi?

    • Marni // April 30, 2011 at 10:14 am

      They want something that is less surface level. A hot woman knows she’s pretty. She’s heard it before. She wants a man who sees her for more than her looks.

      So…. Yes. Approach say hi and start a conversation and at some point compliment her on her personality/style/intelligence etc…

  2. CH // April 30, 2011 at 9:20 am

    Disagree on with you on number 4..I don’t
    think that extremely attractive women have the same insecurities and vulnerabilities as other women.How could they ? The receive
    constant validation about their beauty &
    desirability.They are valued in a way that
    other women could only dream of.

    • Marni // April 30, 2011 at 10:10 am

      I have extremely beautiful friends (10’s/model types) and they are by far my most insecure and vulnerable friends on many issues including: their looks, their bodies, men using them, not finding good men, being hurt…. The list goes on and on.

      • Johan // April 30, 2011 at 11:42 am

        That`s 100% TRUE! My current girlfriend is a hot burnet lating girl but man… the insecurity!! even though she gets approach all the time. The list Marni just described is absolutely True. So my fellow man take her advice and dump the inflatable girlfriend for good.
        I love your material Marni, I must improve my english skills so we can get on the phone sometime 😀 Best wishes!

        • Marni // June 5, 2011 at 12:34 pm

          Just saw this. Thanks Johan! Much appreciated and your English is great. Probably much better than mine 😉

      • Name (required) // January 11, 2012 at 9:23 am

        please you send for me image

    • Eric // April 30, 2011 at 11:32 am

      CH, here’s the thing about that. Everyone has their shortcomings and flaws. Just because a woman hears that she is beautiful all the time doesn’t mean that she actually believes it within her own mind. Marni is right. I’ve seen and heard conversations of some of the most beautiful women and they have insecurities, flaws, and issues that they struggle with just like average women do. Thing is about it though is that beautiful women have their looks as an exterior that distracts and take attention away from their flaws. So while most folks may see a gorgeous 10 with a smoking body and great smile, when she looks in the mirrors she may see something totally different.

      • Sarah // May 13, 2011 at 8:45 pm

        Everyone wants to classify “all beautiful women are like this” or “beautiful women aren’t like that”– but truth is, you can’t judge a woman’s confidence level just based on her beauty. Some good-looking men are confident, some aren’t. I am a Lebanese woman who is naturally very curvaceous but still very slim, have often been called an 11, and get complimented on being gorgeous everytime I out. I often get called stunning or gorgeous, sometimes beautiful, never cute or pretty. Not to be narcissistic, I am trying to make a point. All these compliments have made me very confident about my looks, however, what has really made me confident is that I excelled academically so people have also recognized me for my mental acumen and accomplishments. I think if a woman is well-rounded and confident about other aspects of herself, she will be confident regardless of whether she is a “5” or “10”. On the same token, a woman who is solely dependent on her looks for her confidence and is not well rounded, will not be confident, because looks are fleeting. Also, women who have fake beauty (fake boobs or such) tend to also be very insecure since they have severe body image issues that cause them to slice themselves up in order to feel better about themselves. So it depends on 1) the well-roundedness of the woman, and 2) whether her beauty is fake or natural too. 🙂

  3. Rob // April 30, 2011 at 9:35 am

    who is jeff smith?

  4. Ron - Pickup Your Dating Guide // April 30, 2011 at 9:54 am

    Yes Michael. Only a simple Hi suffice.

    Most of these beautiful women are NOT even approached enough. Guys are just afraid.

    So, you either show enough confidence and go and say Hi. That’s all it takes at times.

    Needless to say, some of them are actually bitches. So, don’t think everyone is the same.

  5. Robert Foster // April 30, 2011 at 9:56 am

    Same question… overall, I’ve learned that the best thing for me personally is to go direct (measured by enthusiasm of response and willingness to talk to me), although I usually say something particular about her which made her uniquely attractive like something about her style and accessories that really made her stand out, or ofcourse if I actually witness them do something admirable.

    I cant say I’ve actually gotten any dates from these interactions, but I think that primarily has to do with my follow up game.

    SO how would you recommend to approach the 9’s and 10’s??? assuming there is nothing extra ordinary happening around us that I can break the ice with and talk about with her…

  6. Michael // April 30, 2011 at 10:46 am

    @ Marni or Ron

    Well if you don’t ever mention their looks, but just approach with a HI and a conversation, then how do you convey that you are attracted to her and want to get to know her more than as a friend(without mentioning her looks)? Won’t she think if you approach her, and never make it obvious that you’re attracted to her,that you in fact just wanna be her “friend”….which you clearly don’t.

  7. Eric // April 30, 2011 at 11:24 am

    Guys remember and embrace the fact that any woman wants to feel special, safe, and secure just like the next. At the end of the day no matter how independent or beautiful a woman is, she is still a woman. Strip away all the fronts, bullshit games, and bitchyness, and you have a woman, who likes the feeling of butterflies in her stomach when she sees and meets a man that intrigues her. I hear and see a lot of guys get overly technical and analytical when it comes to approaching and meeting women, when its really simple. Be the best man that you can be, lead a life that you enjoy, and have high regard and value for yourself. That speaks way more volumes to a woman than any funny pick-up line, any routine, etc…

  8. Eric // April 30, 2011 at 11:39 am

    You can approach a women and mention her looks but it’s about HOW you say it. One of my favorite openers that works on women 99% of the time that I say is, “Please tone down your cuteness because it is very distracting…lol…no but seriously you seem like an interesting person so I had to come over and see what you were like.”

    I’m not going up to women and saying, “You are so freaking HOT! Or you are so beautiful!” No, every guy says that. You want to be playful, state your interest and then be serious about why you wanted to come to talk to her. Being real goes a long way with women. I have told women, “I had to come over here and see what you were like because I know if I didn’t I would go home beating myself up for not AT LEAST coming over and saying hi.”

    Most women find that attractive and respond really well to that because I’m being real which most guys aren’t when they talk to women. I use those openers during the day and night and they work very well. Listen you can say almost anything to a women and get away with it it’s just about HOW you say it and how you come ACROSS.

  9. Eric // April 30, 2011 at 11:48 am


    Mentioning a women accessories or style does work very well but once you mention those things you have to put a statement of interest out there or you will be put in the friend zone. For example, I’ll say to a women, “With such an cool style like that you have to at least stop and say hello. Even though you have a cool style I want to find out if the person with the style is cool also.”

    See how you are complimenting her but at the same time stating your interest. That is what works. Try it and let me know what happens, I promise you it will work.

  10. Kurt // April 30, 2011 at 2:52 pm

    If beautiful women are so human, they why do they so brutally test men and seem to always end up with dangerous bad boy types? If women are looking for safety is this not a paradox? I work with a number of hot women and they will not date any guy unless he is either loaded with cash or has a real good look to them. And these women are professional types, lawyers, accountants not air heads. I think a number of these things are wrong. Hot women seem to expect it all from guys and its an ideal that is very hard to either attain to or just impossible. Try meeting a hot women in a club and its almost impossible to chat with one if they want to chat with you.

  11. sangos // April 30, 2011 at 5:54 pm

    Nice list… you might also add that beautiful women are not scared of anybody coz no one is scary enough for them. Only exception is she is caught speeding by a gay cop 🙂

  12. wonton // April 30, 2011 at 11:05 pm

    “Just because a woman hears that she is beautiful all the time doesn’t mean that she actually believes it within her own mind. ”

    Why would it matter though, at the very least she knows that OTHER people believe it. And she can use that to her advantage. I know a fitness pageant competitor that just came back from a “date” trip to Paris FRANCE! from New york! She didn’t like the guy all that much, but hey, hot body –> free trip to paris. And she jumped on that Sh*t.

    I liken it to my math intelligence. I grew up kicking ass at math. I knew what a logarithm was when I was 15 yrs old. I knew what a N-dimensional Hilbert space was by age 20. People always told me I was smart growing up. Whether I believed it internally didn’t really matter.. i knew that OTHER people thought that about me, and that made me feel pretty good. Of course, I’d always think I could improve, or that I wasn’t as smart as the real real TOP TOP math guys, but I knew I was thumbing my nose at 99% of the population.

    It’s completely disingenuous to say that it has NO effect, hearing that you’re beautiful over and over. I agree that it’s numbing eventually, and that such women want their personalities to be noticed to. Of course, they are complicit themselves especially when their profession depends on their looks (ie thats how they’re presenting themselves to the world – as a beautiful thing)

    • Clear Vision // May 30, 2011 at 8:14 pm

      “…She didn’t like the guy all that much, but hey, hot body –> free trip to paris…”

      And I wonder if this chick could expound for 30 seconds on anything ABOUT Paris other than shopping and restaurants. Architecture, politics, France’s role in the American Revolution, etc.

      So what exactly separates a girl like this from a prostitute – accepting something like that from – and perhaps “conjugating” with? – someone they don’t actually care about. Yup, sure sounds like a substantial example of femaledom.

  13. wonton // May 1, 2011 at 6:09 am

    Check this clip out, it’s fcking amazing and hits the nail on the head:


    • Marni // June 5, 2011 at 2:09 pm

      Loved that!

  14. wonton // May 1, 2011 at 3:55 pm

    ““Just because a woman hears that she is beautiful all the time doesn’t mean that she actually believes it within her own mind. ””

    Also, to add to this, let’s speak realistically about the situation here.

    Do beautiful women have a leg up on society? Yes, absolutely. Does this mean that a beautiful woman will never have a problem in this world, and never be insecure or nervous or anxious ? Of course not. They are still human.

    But Lebron’s anxious about someone in the NBA being better than him, or another team in the NBA beating his team. He knows full well that he can kick the crap out of 99.9999999% of the basketball players out there.

    Beautiful women are by and large the most privileged people around. (That’s not to say they couldn’t have earned and struggled to get that privilege. by exercising, adhereing to a strict diet, keeping up on the latest cosmetic products out there..) But let’s be real about this.. it is INDEED a privileged existence.

  15. Thomas // May 2, 2011 at 11:02 am

    Yes they do live a privileged and they are difficult to date. Game or no game, beautiful women have their pick of men. I disagree with Marni’s line where she says they are not looking for Einsteins brains or Clooney’s looks, most of them are to a certain if not as lofty extent. And why? Because they can and any amount of game is not going to change that unfortunately.

  16. Evan // May 3, 2011 at 6:49 pm

    Good article but missing some points. Beautiful women do have it good overall. Yes there are snags but overall they have it pretty good. And they have choice and will more than often opt for the bad boy or the tall, dark and handsome guy for they are able too. Why would they not if they are able too? Yes they are people but a privileged class as some others have pointed out and will us it to their advantage.

  17. boydnar // May 7, 2011 at 9:47 pm

    Hey wonton . . . I checked out that video and it’s HILARIOUS. I was expecting him to pull out a gun and shoot himself at the end. The bottom line is women DO want it all.

  18. Realdeal // May 8, 2011 at 6:46 am

    question for marni

    Why don’t you post things that have some measure of reality in them?

  19. Tonton // May 8, 2011 at 1:04 pm

    A lot of time these pickup people have to say things to get people to buy their stuff and they always say things like “if you really want it then you can get it no matter what” they take advantage of the horni ness of men and get them to believe things that just are not true

  20. heresmyresponse // May 27, 2011 at 12:11 am

    I’m gonna respond to each one of these points individually, hopefully gonna bring some realism to the table on this:

    1a) They don’t have secret powers.

    No. their powers are well known and out in the open. They attract men, and have more options, so can be more selective. What’s the secret?

    1b) They don’t have secret knowledge that you don’t have.

    They have the knowledge of knowing that guys are attracted to them, and use that knowledge to their advantage. It’s not a secret.

    2) They don’t walk around with an attitude all the time.

    Probably just most of the time. But it depends on what you mean here by ‘attitude’ if the attitude is “Im better than other people” then yes, by and large they would think this.

    3) They aren’t a bunch of “stuck up bitches.”

    Read the response to the last point.

    4) They do have the same insecurities and vulnerabilities as other women.

    Not true. They have different insecurities and vulnerabilities, lesser intensity. I know a smoking hot girl that just got divorced after 13 yrs of marriage. She could walk into any club now and have 50 guys chasing her in an instant. She knows this. She may not be in the right head space to receive that, or want it, or go looking, but she knows it.

    5) They have brains and want to have interesting conversation — just like all the 5′s, 6′s and 7′s in the world.

    Sure, they want interesting conversation, but they may not have brains, and what’s interesting to one person may not be interesting to another. I can go on for days talking about Jungian Archetypes in Starwars, and give you all the reasons why the Karate Kid with Ralph Maccio is my favorite movie of all time, because it speaks to my experience in so many ways. I find that interesting, but most women will roll their eyes in 2 seconds.

    6) They don’t expect every guy to have Einstein’s brains George Clooney’s stunning good looks or Bill Gates’ money.

    Well, Einstein’s brains, definitely not. Einstein was a good physicist, but that’s about as useful to women as a 3rd elbow.

    Clooney’s looks, sure they may not want it 100% of the tiem, but they’ll surely take it. And they surely want someone that looks more like George Clooney than George Carlin.

    7) They truly are interested in a guy’s ability to hold a decent conversation, his confidence, his masculine presence and his ability to lead a woman.

    Sure I agree. but this is all very vague. what are some examples of “decent conversation” “confidence” and “ability to lead women” ? Does ‘lead women’ mean tell them what to do? I’ve tried that before, it doesn’t go over very well.

    8) They don’t want to be approached with some compliment about their looks.

    Yes, very true, not because they don’t like it, but more because they’ve heard it 100 zillion times already.

    9) There is no right THING to say to a beautiful woman.

    True, but there’s no right THING to say to any woman.

    10) Like all other women, beautiful women are just PEOPLE.

    yes.. people.. who are beautiful, and because of that have different experiences than those who are not.

    You’re welcome for this dose of truth.

  21. Clear Vision // May 29, 2011 at 8:29 pm

    Right – just as with all her other broad assertions Marni assures us that “beautiful women” are x, y and z. No hot chick has a stuck up attitude, they’re never vain about the genetic luck of the draw they happen to be bestowed with. None are brainless airheads. They all have intelligent priorities. It’s never true that their looks are about all they have going for them.

    Funny how you never seem to see a Victoria’s Secret model in a relationship with a guy who works at the corner gas station or stocks shelves at Walmart.

    I imagine they have at least one common insecurity – that the clock is ticking on their youthful beauty. Time, gravity, collagen collapse and Twinkie lust will take their toll.

    • Marni // May 30, 2011 at 9:08 am

      Ouch! 🙂

      Trust me, I know some stuck up, bitchy, moody hot people. But I also know some pretty awful ugly people as well.

      The article is meant to show that beautiful people are HUMANS. Just like the rest of us. They just happen to have one of their skill sets/attributes out there in public for the world to see.

      Beautiful women are not off limits to anyone!

    • Realist // January 28, 2012 at 4:03 pm

      Wasn’t the first man who Jennifer Lopez married a waiter? So not really true that beautiful women don’t have a relationship with people in a non glamorous jobs.

      • Marni Wing Girl // January 30, 2012 at 2:01 am

        Exactly: ‘They don’t expect every guy to have Einstein’s brains George Clooney’s stunning good looks or Bill Gates’ money.’

        Marni 🙂

  22. James // June 5, 2011 at 4:06 am

    Hi Marni,

    I’ve just read through this and was thinking about what CH said above about how beautiful women can’t have the same insecurities as others because they are being constantly complimented. This is the WHOLE point! I recently got to know a woman who I would describe as very beautiful. Now things did not work out between us in the way I might have hoped because she constantly felt the need to be surrounded by guys telling her this. I found this very hard work because when we went out I constantly felt as though I was having to compete for her attention (which I’ve no doubt is probably one of my insecurities so it works both ways!)

    Now I’m not sereotyping all women by saying this but I think the point you were trying to make is that a woman with NO insecurities would not constantly need to be assured by guys telling her she was beautiful because she would know this.

    Suffice to say the woman I mention did not end up with any of the guys who were constantly drooling over her. I ended up getting what it was she wanted only I realised it too late so lost out, but I have learnt bucketloads from reading your material, so thanks once again.



  23. koly // June 12, 2011 at 1:25 pm

    Please clarify #8 and #9. I think that is only thing most guys will be confused about.

    If there are NO RIGHT things to say woman, then how is compliment her the wrong thing.

    • Marni // June 12, 2011 at 3:09 pm

      What I mean is there a right way to say it. It’s the character and meaning behind the compliment. If you are not sincere and authentic in your statement OR with yourself then your compliment will be seen as false. False = fake or needy or being said to get something else from her.

      BUT when you do want to compliment, compliment a woman on something other than her looks. She knows she’s beautiful but she has other attributes and qualities that she wants others to see. Take your time to compliment her and if you see something unique or special, point it out. For example “You are actually very intelligent”. Show insight into who she IS rather than what she looks like.

  24. khawar // December 9, 2011 at 11:51 pm

    i m khawar

  25. Thijs // December 27, 2011 at 1:35 pm

    To my own experiences to beautiful women all points are correct to my experiences. Beauty is to me like genetic fortune, meaning that if she is beautiful she did get lucky in the game called genitic roulette.

    Tyler Durdens ten ephinany’s were highly valuable for the way I approached women, the number of rejections lowered.I stopped being a frikkin creep, and therefore I was less likely to be rejected.

    To me leading a women means creating contexts and being cool and stable when she is in emotional trouble.

    Marni, thanks for your advices. They work.

  26. Dan // January 21, 2012 at 5:47 pm

    I think #7 sums it up. Beautiful women have confidence because they believe in themselves. They therefore reguire an equally confident man that believes in himself and is secure in himself. This is my never ending struggle to better myself.

    “feel the fear and do it anyway”

  27. Jayviz // January 29, 2012 at 3:30 pm

    First of beauty is in the eye of the beholder its not society’s job to determine for you whats beautiful but its your own perspective. Second of all, beauty as nothing to do with brains and to correlate the two speaks out of bias. Finally, at the end of the day you have to love the person your and that’s personality.

    • Venus // February 3, 2012 at 10:27 am

      I totally agree, and as a beautiful person I must add that it is our individual perception of inner as well as outer beauty that transforms the world around us.
      Outwardly,I didn’t make an effort for many years, just because… I was noticeably treated differently by people in my inner circle(–who are no longer in that position!). I didn’t miss the attention, however it was very flattering to have again later. If I was accepted, whatever way I looked at whatever time, I kept as my true family of friends. The fakers were cut loose.

      • Marni Wing Girl // February 6, 2012 at 2:46 am

        Great to see another woman commenting on here Venus- glad to hear that you’re meeting more sincere people now 🙂

  28. K // March 24, 2012 at 4:28 pm

    As an attractive woman – I don´t mind a man complimenting me for my looks (i agree with Eric) it needs to be done in a real way, and you MUST have something to say beyond the compliment. My back will be on guard when a man focus´s on my looks and doesn´t take the conversation beyond that. (How long have you lived here is an easy next step – everyone has an answer) I´m tired of the men who hit on me for my looks, and then loose interest when they realize that I am strong, intelligent, successful, and have standards, and am not going to spread my legs just because they gave me a compliment or two.

    • Marni Wing Girl // March 29, 2012 at 7:27 am

      Hey Kallista

      Good to see a woman particpating in this forum: and I’m glad to have your support. I think what’s most frustrating if a guy gets stuck on the superficial: the man is also selling himself short of ever making that genuine connection, the kind of connection that dating someone has to have.

      Marni 🙂

  29. Neil // March 30, 2012 at 10:39 am

    Marni has good stuff but guys remember, advice from your usual woman is bad advice since all women are insecure, so their #1 priority is to have all guys like them. To be constantly validated. To a girl this makes her feel better than being laid and is a bigger priority. Sometimes when you ignore a woman, she may ever come back to you and say hi and you make out with her. she’ll then say, “I kinda thought you didn’t like me”. So remember, our goal is to get laid and then build more comfort after, because if you build too much at the beginning, you’re both screwed. I mean not.

    • Marni Wing Girl // April 4, 2012 at 2:37 am

      Hi Neil

      I agree that not all women are able to give good advice on this one: but not that all women are fundamentally insecure. I think guys can be equally likely to be insecure as women; and this does create some problems with having honest, open communication on both sides.

      Before you sleep with a woman you also need to have a degree of comfort, though you’d be correct to think that you don’t want too much so that you just become a friend she wants to kick back with.

      Marni 🙂

  30. Thinkifier // April 25, 2012 at 11:52 pm

    Yeah, every straight guy on the planet thinks hot women are….hot.

    However…this youthful ultra-hotness will last until she’s maybe 35 give or take – and that’s IF she really takes care of herself. Think of Bridget Bardot, Sophia Loren, Ivana Trump, Linda Evans among others. All stunningly attractive in their youth. Yeah, people will talk about how great they look – yada yada. But be honest, if they came on to you at a bar today would you be all over that or looking for an escape route?

    Besides questions of character, honesty, intelligence, what happens if she gets some chronic illness, gets disfigured in an accident, loses a limb, has a debilitating stroke when she’s in her 30’s and needs care for the rest of her life. Stuff happens.

    Look at the depth of your own motivations. Are you looking to bag a babe or looking for a partner for the long haul and willing to deal with whatever comes?

    • Marni Wing Girl // May 1, 2012 at 4:43 am

      Hi Thinkifer

      I think that’s an interesting and valid point you made: if you’re looking for a long term relationship someone’s personality and disposition is always the most important. Looks (on both sides!) fade fast

      Marni 🙂

    • Davidio // February 22, 2014 at 6:38 pm

      Actually, and I know this is rare, my wife has been exceptionally beautiful for 40 years and does not look like that is going to change anytime soon. I am prepared, however, for the day she starts to age and lose her amazing looks. I am in it for the long haul.

    • bravesrule384 // August 31, 2015 at 8:35 am

      @ Thinkifer – I think Linda Hogan (ex-wife of Hulk Hogan could be added
      to that list too) and for their ages, Sophia Loren, Ivana Trump and
      Linda Evans are still very attractive!

  31. Reality // March 2, 2015 at 8:11 pm

    Very Stuck up and Pathetic.