How and When To Sexually Escalate With Women

How to escalate with a girl? That is the question. Most likely you are NOT escalating correctly and creeping out women.

Not on purpose.  But you are.

Let me take a step back for a second and share an email I got from Corey.  He’s one of my personal email coaching clients.  

I’m pretty sure if you are watching this video that either you’ve done what Corey has done with women OR you may do it in the future. 

So you may hit your head after watching this video and say OMG I’m an idiot.  Or you may say Marni you are amazing, thank god I watched this. 

Here is Corey’s email asking how to escalate with a girl: 

Hey Marni, 

Can you still ask a girl out after going overboard on a drunk night? 

Before purchasing your wonderful product 

I had a drunk moment and replied to one of my hot friends' posts on Facebook. 

She posted that she wants a hug that turns into sex. 

I thought it would be appropriate to comment on there “Do you still need a hug” with a smirky face at the end. 

She replied back with “oh my goodness”. And hasn't said anything.  

Did I do something wrong OR if I did something right, what do I respond back with? 

Your extremely thankful student, Corey

My first initial response to Corey was that was cheeky and bold and I like it. So I wrote back to him and told him I loved it.  

BUT that NOW he has to own what he said and not back down from putting that sexual vibe out there.

It was not on her to continue escalating cause that wouldn’t be ladylike. 

Note that he didn’t write back saying “I’ll do you” or “I’m down for sex” or “Ride me” or just send a blatant dic pic that is never welcomed by any woman.

And BTW these are direct quotes and responses from men who have written to me so I’m not just throwing them out there.  

The first step to learn how to escalate with a girl…

Instead, he inferred, and talked AROUND being sexual but didn’t say it outright.  This is the first step to sexual escalation.  

It’s playing with an idea to see how the woman responds.  If she shuts it down and redirects, it’s a sign that she’s not into OR that you have start over.  

BUT if she does what this girl did, it’s an open invitation to keep going.

Her response was shock. “Oh my goodness!” she exclaimed!  What she didn't do was go off on him or turn cold.

She expressed shock which was a sign for our friend Corey to keep going and show what else he’s got.

So I told Corey to OWN his bold statement keep going and respond back with something like “so NO to the hug then” with a smirky face at the end.  

I’m sure there are way better responses you can put together but do you see how these are still teaser responses and don’t jump straight to sex. 

I sent this response back to Corey and he immediately replied with:

“Marni. I would probably pay triple just to get instant message help from you because your line worked.  

I said so no to the hug and she replied hugs are nice with a winky face.  

THIS MADE MY DAY!!! 

He was sexually escalating and flirting with her beautifully. The fun had begun!

He then said: I was planning on responding with “They are nice, how about I take you out and see if my hugs can make you go crazy”. 

What do you think of that response?

I wrote Corey back immediately saying this. 

NOOOOO!!!!  Don’t do this. 

What do I think?  

Here's how not to sexually escalate with a girl

I think it’s WAY too big a jump to go from innuendo to “I’m going to stick my penis in you and you’ll go crazy.”.

I know porn has probably taught you that women like this, but we really really don’t.  Like really don’t.

Go pick up a woman’s romance novel.  

One with a really muscular guy on the cover and long hair, holding a woman in a dip and looking longingly into her eyes.  

That’s how you know it will be super gushy and good.  

Get it and read it and see how the slow build to sex is continuously presented.  

These books never have a story of a woman walking into her salon and the hair washer saying “I’ve been waiting for you, you naughty girl.  

Now bend over and I’ll give you what you deserve.”

Actually, that was kind of hot, but I’m also adding more context to that story in my own mind.  

This is totally confusing you now and I apologize, but in Corey's situation, he had not built anything up this girl yet. 

If you haven’t built up to that point with a woman, your advances won’t be received well. 

Move slowly

Corey, you gotta go slower.  Lead towards sex. That's how you escalate with a girl! Don’t pounce.  

So what you could have done was said something like “hugs are nice, but a good cuddle session is even better dot dot dot”.  

And then go from there.  

After that, if she’s in agreement that cuddles would be fun then you could invite her to come over and cuddle with you, but warn her not to get frisky and that you’re not that kind of guy. 

Or you can say something like “Don’t think this means you’re getting lucky” or “Just because I’m inviting you back to my place doesn’t mean I’m easy”.

Side note: any time you are in flirting mode with a woman and tell her NOT to do something or DON’T do XY and Z she will immediately have an urge to do the opposite.

See how you are still expressing the same thing you wanted to express a.k.a implying sex, but you’re doing it in a much more subtle way that won’t scare off a woman?

Corey wrote back the next day telling me he did exactly what I told him, but added in a little of his own flare based on my guidance and guess what??  

Corey's results

Corey had a very nice cuddle session with his friend that didn’t stay as “just cuddling” for too long.  

When she got over he teased her more and told her to keep her hands to herself and she immediately started groping him.  

They laughed. He tickled her and the rest is Corey's story to share. 

Men who understand how women work will always have the upper hand with women.  Let me give you a constant upper hand.  

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Marni