How To Respond To Tests From Women

Have you ever been talking to a girl and she puts you on the spot by asking you to do stuff for her?

Stuff like:

shit tests, why do women test“Could you buy me a drink…”


“Wait here while I go to the bathroom…”

as if she does not value you, your time or your money?

I have not had a girl do this to me 😉 but sadly, I have done this to many guys. I never did this to be mean to a guy or take advantage of guy. I did these things subconsciously to see whether or not a guy had value.

Most of the guys I would do this to would freak out and rush to the bar to buy me a drink or wait anxiously while I went to the bathroom.

These were the guys that I would probably talk to all night until a guy I was attracted to came around and caught my attention. Then I would quickly ditch them.

Then there were the other guys that I would do this to, that responded in a certain way, that would make me instantly want them. I would forget I had to go to the bathroom and I would be up at the bar buying him a drink.

Now I want you to know that it was not what these guys said to me, that made me instantly attracted to them. It was what was behind their words that really got me.

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He happens to be this community’s best-kept-secret. No doubt about it.

And he’s opened up a great free video series where he’ll teach you how to spot the 3 subconscious “tests” that women give you and what you need to do to pass every time.

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  1. wuhan // June 1, 2011 at 11:14 pm

    “These were the guys that I would probably talk to all night until a guy I was attracted to came around and caught my attention. Then I would quickly ditch them.”

    Never knew you were so callous and mean-spirited.. Instead of teaching men how to deal with the problem, how about teaching women not do to it in the first place?

    If they’re not doing it to be “mean” but rather are doing it “subconsciously” well… that’s like the argument that so many killers and rapists get off with when pleading insanity… [obviously Im not saying they are the same thing]

    But I think it’s useful to look at how this part of society is completely accepted.

    • wuhan // June 1, 2011 at 11:22 pm

      a lot of the time, this kind of behavior is written off evolutionarily… as in

      women have evolved to play these stupid mind games in order to ensure they are getting someone who can care for their child when they are pregnant, etc.. Women say this and us guys have to nod our heads and go ‘yep, thats the way it is’

      of course, if a man leaves an older woman for a younger one, because he is following genetic impulse to have sex with a more fertile person, that’s not so easily explained away, is it ?

      how many women will say to their boyfriends that just cheated on a younger girl, “oh its ok, you were just following genetic impulse…”

      • Marni // June 2, 2011 at 8:12 am

        Ummmm I think there is a little bit of a difference here. One action is based on insecurity and sensitivity while the other is based on disrespect and drive.

        Listen, there are some times when women are bitches on purpose YES. Not trying to take away from any of that. But what I am telling you is that for MOST of them, especially the good ones, the testing comes from a place of protection for themselves.

        If you can address these insecurities rather than the direct “test”, BINGO, you’re a winner every time and the tests will decrease.

        Women are not going to to being insecure about a man they are seeing, dating or married UNLESS they have proof that they can chill out and relax. If you do handle it properly and tests are still constant, then the girl has to go some work on herself to handle her trust issues.

        All you can be is a good man that is there for her, but eventually she has to help herself.

  2. wuhan // June 2, 2011 at 8:04 pm

    “Women are not going to to being insecure about a man they are seeing, dating or married UNLESS they have proof that they can chill out and relax. ”

    “Chill out and relax” is much different from “don’t buy a drink but just stand there when she says buy me a drink”

    Do you see the point Im making ?

    If the end action is the *same* how as I guy am I supposed to know whether its insecurity or disrespect ? I had a girl come repeatedly late to dates. I mean REPEATEDLY. I took that as a huge sign of disrespect, especially because she gave me crap for coming 10 mins late once. (I said, well that’s 20 minutes early in your timezone)

  3. Daniel // June 13, 2011 at 7:31 pm

    “Then there were the other guys that I would do this to, that responded in a certain way, that would make me instantly want them. I would forget I had to go to the bathroom and I would be up at the bar buying him a drink.”

    Hi Marni. A lot of guys out there would grately appreciate it… if you were to say how or give examples, of how those other guys responded that made you want them. Thank you and keep up the good work.

  4. Marni // June 14, 2011 at 9:57 am

    The guys that responded in a certain way that made me want them were the guys who were not phased by me or what I was putting out there.

    I could tell that these guys saw through my exterior. They were confident and comfortable enough with who they were, that they did not feel the need to jump to please me. They knew their value (not in an arrogant way) and held their own.

    If you read my post on smiling, where I describe the smirk, you will understand exactly what I am talking about.

    Without saying words they were saying to me “I’m awesome, you are cute but I see something more.”

  5. wuhan // June 15, 2011 at 6:59 am

    “They knew their value (not in an arrogant way) and held their own.”

    What’s an example of knowing your value in an arrogant way, vs knowing your value in a non-arrogant way.

  6. ru a playa too? // February 14, 2012 at 2:08 pm

    I came to your site from a fox news site with an interview with you and was very impressed. Ditto for all the content I’ve read here so far.

    But now after clicking the video link to your friend Joshua Pellicer, as well as looking at some of your advertisers, it seems like you’re supporting your site with PUA-pimps.

    You seem like a great girl with great advice so please think twice about associating with the PUA-bags. All they want is to help guys with low self-esteem to hook up with girls with low self-esteem.

    Nothing wrong with a hookup between two consenting adults but not when one of the “adults” is a skeevy PUA-trained hustler.

    Sorry but good guys need good girls and you have some great advice to help that to happen without treating girls like crap.

    Just saying.

    • Marni Wing Girl // February 23, 2012 at 2:16 am

      Hey ‘playa’

      Really glad you liked my site: and i’m really glad not to be known as a ‘pua’. I totally agree that great relationships should be based on two consenting adults connecting: and I wouldn’t try to endorse anything else.

      What I teach isn’t based in any ‘sneaky’ lines: it’s about trying to make guys their best, most confident selves, around women and letting attraction happen naturally.

      Marni 🙂

  7. Skeptical // April 5, 2012 at 4:27 pm


    As you know, I’ve been seriously studying your material for a few months now (WIWM, and the Valentine’s convo along w/ this blog. Something else you should know, I’ve been studying dating material for over 10 years now (Pre-PUA, PUA, Bootcamps, Spiritual approaches, and now you). I think it’s easier to go to the moon w/ a bicycle than it is to understand women at times. Please see my recent experience of a broken date below, and give me your honest (brutal if necessary) opinion on how I handled it, along w/ any suggestions you deem appropriate.

    After meeting via a direct approach & 20 min convo in the day, and then talking on the phone in a lively conversation for 46 mins that night, two days later the following text messages:

    Her: “morning (: sorry i missed ur call last night im gonna have to take
    a raincheck on coffee today my aunts coming down from Monterey”

    Me (5 min later): “No worries, let me know when is good for you. Hope you have great day :). Tell ur aunt frm Monterey ur an impressive girl in mind n manner.”

    Her (10 min later): “haha kay thank you”

    n that was that. Your opinion(s)? I never did claim that one free question w/ purchase of WIWM, and even though I am
    outside the agreed time frame, would you indulge me n consider this my question– that is, what is your opinion on how I handled this?

    • Marni // April 5, 2012 at 8:44 pm

      You handled it just fine. She wasn’t into you. I’m assuming you knew that by your response and just wanted to cut ties.

      If you still wanted to entice and pursue you could have dialed it up a notch and played around with her a little more.

  8. Skeptical // April 6, 2012 at 6:24 pm

    Thank you Marni, read this, it’s worth it.

    FWIW, this week has been great & tough at the same time. Great in that I met and carried conversation with 6 very attractive women whose look & presence caught my eye. Tough in that I have no dates this weekend. At the beginning of the week, women were turning their heads when I’d walk into a room, & engaging these girls in conversation & talking with them was fun, especially since I was being straight forward & alive with them. It was fun, and much easier than I have ever remembered.

    After the broken date, and another girl not answering her phone, I became saddened, disappointed, & felt a hurt of some sort. Guess what!–women stopped turning their heads.

    Today was especially tough, but I forced myself to talk to the next girl who caught my eye. The convo wasn’t great, but I got to meet another girl who’s cute, well-spoken & very feminine.

    Then it happened–Broken Date Girl ran into me. That didn’t go well. I wasn’t confident, and my voice quivered as I spoke. In the past, I’ve won awards in Public Speaking, and for the life of me, I couldn’t help my voice in that moment.

    Walking away from that one, I told myself “no way; I’m not going to let this get to me”. I promised myself I was going to walk with my chin up the rest of day.

    No more than 5 minutes after that moment, a women on the street turned her head & looked at me for no apparent reason. That look felt very similar to the looks I was getting earlier in the week.

    What you’re teaching men IS ABOUT A STATE OF MIND & A WAY OF BEING. IT’S NOT EASY WORK & I THANK YOU FOR THAT. You putting your all into this work is giving me tools & helping me find the audacity to be a stronger person.

    To everyone else on here, I would say, studying & applying her stuff it isn’t easy, and it may even upset you at times, but that’s because there is a genuineness to it that is touching upon some real issues, misconceptions, & ill-suited patterns of behavior. It’s like a good exercise program: it might hurt a little, but at the same time you know it’s good for you. Before you know it, you’ll be walking with your chin held high, and smiling when you notice a woman giving you the “look”.

    I look forward to applying your teachings and posting my experiences of ever greater success on this blog.

    • Marni Wing Girl // April 11, 2012 at 3:54 am

      Hey Skeptical

      Thanks for sharing your experiences here: I couldn’t agree more that how you feel about you, whether you think you’re sexy and worth having the right women in your life is SUPER important to how attractive you are as a guy.

      Happy to hear that you’re working on this and that things are coming right for you

      Good luck

      Marni 🙂

  9. Clayton // August 3, 2012 at 2:35 am

    You might as well have substituted Josh’s link for your link to this article because it had ZERO useful facts or tips. You could have given one or two basic tips. It looks like you took the day off when you wrote this one. It is not up to your usual standards. Maybe there is something useful in the comments?

    • Marni Wing Girl // August 6, 2012 at 11:37 am

      Hey Clayton

      I think the main point here is not to do the thing that women request of you without questionning it, or bringing a different vibe to the table. No woman wants to be with a ‘yes’ man: we like guys who stand out to us by not automatically accepting every word we say, and knowing their own mind

      Marni 🙂

  10. lee // December 29, 2012 at 10:49 pm

    There are guys who put up with ANY of this trash? Are you kidding? No wonder these women get beat up.

    • Marni Wing Girl // January 1, 2013 at 10:36 pm

      This kind of thing is NOT welcome in my comments section.

  11. Δημητρης Ιωαννου // May 23, 2013 at 9:18 am

    “We are a society of men that was raised by women”
    Never listen to a woman, if you listen to the woman and comply with whatever she asks you to do, she will not respect you.
    Be a man and act like you don’t need her, because you do NOT need her. There many women around.
    Stop being NEEDY.