How To Win Over A Bitch

Want to know how to win over a bitch?

From the pretty girl that punched you on the playground; to the model type that gave you a blank stare when you tried to buy her a drink last Friday, I’m sure you have encountered a really pretty girl, who just happens to be a total bitch.

Or at least you think she is and you have no idea how to handle her tantrums, mean remarks, or cold silences. She only seems capable of being nice to her girl friends or real players; and you have no idea how to show her you’re a decent guy, who deserves a lead role in her life.

Frustrating, huh?

Well I know you might not believe me when I say this, so bare with me, but sometimes it is not that easy being super hot. You may think that it’s all queue jumping, free drinks, and apparently a license to be really mean to strangers; but if you speak to hot girls, they’ll paint you a much less glamorous picture.

I’m a good friend of many seriously (Victoria Secret) hot women and they always complain to me about being judged in the same way: they sigh about people often assuming they’re dumb, bitchy, or easy. Each of them will have a story to tell about a guy that only dated them for how they looked, how their opinions were not being taken seriously at work, and how other women are real bitches to them…all because of how they look.

You can guess their reaction to always being isolated because of how they look: developing a shield of guarded, thorny behavior that will sting you if you get too close. In keeping you at arm’s length, they’re trying to defend themselves.

Ok, I know what you’re thinking as you read this, ‘Well that’s stupid, their bitchy behavior is keeping me away, and I’m a genuine guy who would never mistreat a girl.’

And yes you’re right, the only guys that tend to be able to break through this girl’s defenses are usually the kind of guy that she wants to keep away: the total idiots. It would be great if these gorgeous girls realized that bitchiness is not a brilliant way to meet cool guys: but this is just how things are. I know, it’s not very logical, but this behavior is often not a conscious choice: it’s just a knee jerk reaction. Snapping at you to get out of their way is often nothing more than a well thought out response.

Knowing why a hot girl sometimes acts like a bitch can help you to figure out how to break down that barrier. You won’t be able to sooth it by being the ultimate Mr. Nice guy; because if you pander to her bad behavior, by doing whatever she wants, she’s not going to respect you. These girls need a strong man they can trust to protect them; so that they don’t have to do the hard work themselves.

Check out the video I made for you below on How To Win Over A Bitch.  I apologize in advance for the horrible quality of this video.  It’s totally wonky, but the content is great. Click play to watch the video:

So, I want you to show her that you are not fazed by her bitchiness and that you can see beyond her tough exterior shell. Next time you get a bitchy response from a woman let it wash over you: don’t react in an overly emotional way. Instead, try to see her behavior for what it really is: a defense. Be super cool: ignore her low blow.

A great technique to do this? Start interpreting her bitchy swipes as charming and endearing: instead of cruel and evil. Realize they’re not really aimed at you, and fall for the girl that wants to be cared for, not the great pair of legs she comes with.

Remember, I’m not here to tell you how women SHOULD do things. I’m here to tell you how they DO things so that you can be ready to win every time!

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  1. Paul // July 29, 2011 at 11:39 am

    There are some trues here, I grant you that. There are all kinds of people and all kinds of women. However, I still do not totally agree with the defense thing. So many beautiful women are just so full of themselves. They get what they want and they use people to the nth degree. Beauty is currency and its a high value currency. For a guy to cut thru this, he needs something of high value to off set it such as being a hot guy himself or money or status of some sort.

    Its a game women play. They know what they are doing. They have made a choice to date the jerk, there is no defense for that “defense.”

    So all in all, I take this with a grain of salt. Beautiful who are bitch because they can be bitchy. Its not a defense. Its a choice. Totally.

    • Mike // November 8, 2011 at 6:36 pm

      Or a huge penis.

    • Oscar // March 29, 2012 at 10:06 am

      Money over bitches

  2. Mr. Boring // July 29, 2011 at 12:14 pm

    Dealing with a bitchy woman, no thanks. Why would you want to?

  3. Steve // July 30, 2011 at 7:22 am

    I might be in the minority with this one, but I actually like the fact that a girl has a bitch shield.
    Sure it can make things way more challenging for you in the beginning and there are probably far better ways of dealing with guys trying to hit on her, but it proves she’s not a total pushover or easy which surely is a good thing in its own cute and quirky way?

    Generally tho, I believe that the biggest mistake us guys make is taking things far too personally. It’s actually rather egotistical, and makes us come across as emotionally needy.

    Sure there are always going to be times when I still take things personally, either if I’m caught off guard, having one of those days d a bad day or something – nobody is perfect (although a lot of people will want you believe they are lol) and it’s just one of those things.

    Basically if you can stop having unrealistic expectations (which ironically often stems from falling for too much of the pick up or dating sales hype about being able to attract any girl you want etc. lol), be honest with yourself about what you’re really after and why, and stop making dating and sex some personal crusade that will somehow validate you as a “real guy”, you’ll actually have far more fun with your life, be more confident and have some great experiences and stories 🙂

  4. Dale Ovenstone // August 5, 2011 at 3:13 am

    Great information Marni, I love the humour in the video, &, thanks for reminding me ‘it’s HOW you say it, compared to what you say. Thanks for the info, regards Dale

  5. Joel // October 28, 2011 at 7:10 am

    I have a classmate,she real hottie,all the guys are offering value to her/all this stuff.
    I’m doing the opposite,totally ignoring her,she’s always being total “bitch”,towards me…all I do is ignore those “tests”,and comments,just saying…it wont impress me!!! =) ,while she’s giving me loads of “IOI-s”.
    *slightly thouching me,moving closer,hair play,happy feet and stuff. =)
    There’s the fun part of it,that the guys are mad at me somehow,I think it’s because I get her attention and she’s probably talking shit about me to other guys,like I’m being “Not Nice” towards her.

    • Marni Wing Girl // November 1, 2011 at 12:01 pm

      Hey Joel

      I wouldn’t assume too many things about this girl (like that she’s necessarily ‘bad mouthing’ you)

      It does sound like you’re getting signs of interest from her though, which is great. It also sounds like she’s the kind of girl who likes to be challenged and teased; however, you shouldn’t be 100% antagonistic towards her too- as you need to make a genuine connection too.

      Maybe next time you tease her about not ‘impressing’ you you could tell her she’s cute when she’s mad, or tell her what would impress you. keep it playful smile, and see where this one goes.

      Good luck

      Marni 🙂

  6. Randy // January 13, 2012 at 8:04 pm


    The second guy was a far better looking guy than the first guy. Surely that had something to do with his success do you not think? If a short, balding guy used those same words, would it have been as successful? Please elaborate

    • Marni Wing Girl // January 19, 2012 at 11:00 am

      Hey Randy

      Neither being a little on the short side, or a little ‘thin on top’ are deal breakers for women! Confidence, masculinity and being a man who isn’t affected by the behavior of a woman he doesn’t know are all universally attractive qualities. Looking like a male model may buy you a few more seconds of time to make a good impression, but it’s not nearly as important as following that up with a great attitude

      Marni 🙂

  7. Charles // January 17, 2012 at 7:27 pm

    Hi Marni,

    I love your positivity as you seem to be a total optimist. I’m not hating or anything but I certainly have a ways to go before I become that..

    Any thoughts for someone in my stage of the game?

    • Marni // January 18, 2012 at 11:58 am

      Hey Chuck,

      Send me an email at with a little more info on you and we can discuss 🙂

    • Marni Wing Girl // January 19, 2012 at 11:19 am

      Hey Charles,

      I think that to begin with building that optimistic, positive outlook and view on your life is so important.

      To do this build a great social circle, be healthy, take up activities that make you feel good- and enjoy your own company. When we’re comfortable in our own skin it makes us very attractive to others.

      Good luck

      Marni 🙂

  8. Will Jolly // January 25, 2012 at 7:35 pm

    “How To Win Over A Bitch”: Why would I want to do that?

  9. Donovan // March 31, 2012 at 9:34 pm

    Thank Marni. This blog post of yours has realy got me thinking about hot girls in a new way. I have a Q for you: telling a woman I think she’s beautiful, in my approach, is that a bad idea? I want to think more about caring for the girl and less about the hot legs she comes with, but…well, the hot legs probably attracted me in the first place. Am I too sincere? lol

    • Marni Wing Girl // April 4, 2012 at 2:43 am

      Hey Donovan

      it’s always great to talk to a girl about her personality: but if you just see her in the street you may not get the chance to know what she’s like. So you may have to approach using a physical compliment: but try to deliver this like it’s no big deal, don’t repeat the compliment, and quickly move on to other topics of conversation so that you can start getting to know her properly

      Marni 🙂

  10. Ian // April 16, 2012 at 12:42 pm

    Hi Marni,

    You’re a talented and beautiful woman. Your advice is sure to help many a man. Unfortunately, most men will not benefit from interacting with a bitchy woman, even if they’re non-chalant. You see brothers, bitchy women are just like bitchy guys. They have a “bitch shield” up because you have no chance of getting her to respect you, even if you sleep with her, which is nothing to look forward, I assure you. Sleeping with a bitchy-type is like sleeping with a mannequin; She will literally strike a pose, and tell you to do all the work. One last thing men, NEVER EVER TAKE ADVICE ABOUT WOMEN FROM A WOMAN! Women are brilliant in many ways, but they are more alike then men are, and they display this in everything from Sex in the City, to Oprah. THEY CELEBRATE HAVING ONE VOICE. So man up, have some spine and realize women want you because you DON”T put up with their bs, NOT the other way around. 😀

    • Marni Wing Girl // April 18, 2012 at 3:37 am

      Hey Ian

      Whilst I totally agree it’s a fantastic thing for guys to have strong personal boundaries; I do think that men can learn a lot from listening to women, not just other men, about dating. Sure, not all women (nor all men) will give good advice but there are trusted boices on btoh sides that have value to contribute. And I always think it’s best to get that perspective and broadern your knowledge… as there’s usually more than one piece to the jigsaw puzzle

      Marni 🙂

      • Mrk44 // November 12, 2014 at 4:45 pm

        Women are where you should get most of your dating advice, with some male input to balance the scales.

      • Jaded satyr // March 28, 2017 at 3:59 pm

        Dang Marni, did you write this response? 3 misspelled words in one paragraph. Are you drunk or just angry that the lion’s share of respondents disagree with your advice here?

  11. Tim // September 17, 2012 at 2:42 am

    most women do this recently i went to shoot pool at a local bar & i was shooting pool & this girl kept looking at me so i waved her over now when i got a drink before hand she looked at me i msiled at her she smiled back well when she comes over to shoot pool one of the 1st things she says to me btw she was drunk she said your a asshole , thats good the next thing out of her mouth was your a dick, i said your very entertaining , then when she was getting ready to take a shot she flips the the middle finger salute then i said to her man your getting romantic i like it with that she was ready to just jump on me she wanted to put her hands all over me & she was smiling when she was doing this , serious shit tests ive had many thrown at me like this & how i usually handle them is just tell them man i like it when your romantic or man your turning me on when your this romantic

    • Marni Wing Girl // September 18, 2012 at 12:25 pm

      Hey Tim

      I think this worked because you kept your cool and didn’t rise to the bait. Instead you treated her negative reaction with good humour and so (eventually!) got a great response.

      Marni 🙂

    • Jaded satyr // March 28, 2017 at 4:02 pm

      Your writing and spelling are like a 10 year old.

  12. Chris // December 6, 2012 at 6:02 pm

    How about this suggestion for how to deal with bitchy women?…. Move on and find a girl who has the depth of character to be respectful to all people regardless of her past experiences. I know I wouldn’t want to be with a woman like that no matter how hot she is. If she’s a bitch to me that means she’ll be a bitch to others I have no respect for that kind of behavior and I couldn’t respect myself if I allowed myself to be seen around that kind of woman. I’d be embarrassed.

    I think it is terrible to be suggesting that there are ways to “get past their bitch shields”. Basically your are saying you have no self respect and are willing to accept being treated badly just also you can get attention from an attractive woman. If a woman is a bitch to you… You walk away. It’s that simple. No one deserves that. And any guy who still demonstrates attraction to a woman who behaves that way is only rewarding her behavior. Basically telling her if she keeps acting that way she’ll keep getting what she wants.

    • Marni Wing Girl // December 11, 2012 at 7:36 pm

      Hey Chris,
      At the end of the day, it’s always going to be your choice who you do or don’t pursue.
      Just remember that some women have wonderful qualities behind their defence mechanisms- it’s up to you to decide who you give your time to though.
      Marni 🙂

    • Jaded satyr // March 28, 2017 at 3:44 pm


    • Mark // June 5, 2017 at 1:21 am



    • Phil Hendrie for President // August 22, 2017 at 1:24 am

      Yep. There are girls who you have to earn their trust, but that is a different thing than someone who just flat out treats you like crap. If someone is a b*tch, I don’t really want to be around them no matter how good looking they are.

  13. curtis // December 9, 2012 at 10:54 pm

    I would argue that any time a man encounters this, he should just out Alpha her and put himself on a higher proverbial step on the social ladder. Dont be afraid to walk away from a hot chick, even while she is talking. I have done this more than once and it works because they are not used to it. hot women are used to dictating the the pace of a situation. Sometimes, I think they are just testing to are if a man has the balls to put them in their place..

    • Marni Wing Girl // December 11, 2012 at 7:50 pm

      Well, you know what I say about confidence- sexy, always.
      Just make sure you know the difference between confident and aggressive.
      Marni 🙂

  14. Faux // January 29, 2013 at 10:29 am

    The video just proves that a man with a low voice is attractive because it implies he has a certain body to go with it.

  15. Devon // February 4, 2013 at 12:43 am

    Sounds like most of the guys responding to this post have a little bit of an insecurity problem, or maybe just have an unresolved history of being burned by a woman like this in the past. Personally, I think this is a great post and is amazing advice for guys to keep in the back of their minds when talking to any woman, whether bitchy or not (all women have blocks that have nothing to do with you). Besides, none of you have any idea what it’s like to be a woman, nor can I say that with confidence myself for that matter. But what I find helps put the picture in perspective, is trying this analogy on for size:
    You’re the scrawniest dude in a prison full of testosterone fueled convicts who haven’t seen a member of the opposite sex in months, years, or maybe won’t get the opportunity ever again. To these guys, you’re jail bait. Now you realize there are rules in place and guards to protect you, but does that make the thought of being violated any less plausible or frightening? Not unless you’re a sadistic gay guy, which I’m assuming none of you are.

    I’d say this is pretty similar to the experience a women has everyday, considering she is smaller and weaker than 95% of the guys out there, 95% of whom are probably immoral, douchebags, idiots, creeps, or just plain terrible with women. Not to mention the actual sickos who are cool with resorting to rape to get their needs met. There’s a reason women always watch their drinks and never go home alone. This being the case, I’m a little more than 100% positive that there are plenty of good reasons why a wonderful, female human being might develop the unfortunate habit of being a “bitch.” And that’s not even touching upon the conflicts society places upon women, in addition to any of the baggage she carries from her own personal life, which assuming you’re all humans I’m sure you can relate to.

    If that didn’t sink in, let me make my point crystal clear with a more personal note. The woman I’m happily in love with happens to be the biggest bitch on the planet. However, she also happens to carry around the biggest heart out of anyone I ever crossed paths with. If I hadn’t looked past the only negative trait she has the tendency of displaying, I wouldn’t have ever gotten to fall for such an amazing girl. The fact that I don’t perceive what is her defense against morons looking at her as a mere sex object, is the reason she let’s down her guard to have a passionate, healthy relationship with me. Insecurity and immaturity are the only reasons not to give someone a chance to get to know the real person behind the mask. As confident men, comfortable with who they are, you should all keep that in mind, fellas.

  16. Mark // March 15, 2013 at 7:49 am

    Marni, I love your site and your blogs. I would like to say from a guy’s perspective that Marni is right that it does not matter what you look like. I am overweight and not the best looking guy and have some acne. I am a college student, but I am confident with women and that I can get with them. As a result, I know and am around some of the most attractive women on campus, it got to the point where now there’s an office that does not like me because I was always with a different BEAUTIFUL girl. Don’t get me wrong I do not and did not take advantage of these girls there were honestly too many for me to handle my point is that when these girls saw and see how confident I am they want to be around me and know me. And I am have no money, the small amount of money I get goes to books and to help out with the bills at home (I live with my mother.) So please stop to all men stop using excuses for reasons why women won’t like you. The excuses you come up with become real because she can sense it. When are intuitive they have feel what we feel, that’s why women are good at finding out our lies. Take charge of your lives and go for what you want, ask for what you want and listen to MARNI. One of the few women I would listen to about women.

    • Marni Wing Girl // March 16, 2013 at 12:32 pm

      Hi Mark,

      Thanks for the vote of confidence. Like the saying goes, whether you think you can or you can’t, you’re right!
      Good job on everything you’ve achieved so far.

      Marni 😀

  17. Marc // May 18, 2013 at 8:33 am

    In a word: NO. Why would you want to win over a bitch? It may not be a temporary phase she’s going through, but her stable personality instead. There’s plenty of work I do behind the scenes before even *meeting* women that I’d probably skip if I didn’t have to set myself apart from less desirable, mediocre men.

    If she’s acting like a bitch, all that means is she’s either 1) having a bad day, or 2) mediocre herself. If it’s option #2), I will pass on those women permanently. If it’s #1), sorry, but life is not always fair. Maybe she’ll get lucky and meet me again sometime when things are going better for her. Who knows, maybe she will do some heavy-duty self-improvement work herself? If she becomes cool enough, she’ll probably find a great guy who will overlook her occasional moods.

    Dating me, however, is a privilege, and acting like a bitch quickly gets those privileges REVOKED. I reward the behaviors I want to see more of, and being a bitch is not one of the behaviors I desire more of in my life.

    • Bill // January 18, 2016 at 8:21 pm

      I agree with you. These women would not piss on you if you were burning. Why cater to their bad behavior

      • Mark // June 5, 2017 at 1:23 am

        You two are way more intelligent than a lot of people….

  18. Decent Guy // June 14, 2013 at 6:55 pm

    W.T.F.? No decent guy wants a bitch. Was this written for retarded guys or guys that are masochists?

    • Mark // June 5, 2017 at 1:22 am


  19. Jay // June 30, 2013 at 4:55 pm

    Here’s the best response in my opinion..

    fuck off u dumb cunt..

    loll then let her talk to her friends about how some guy said this to her.. this approach gives self-centered bitches something to talk about when they aren’t too busy thinking they are the hottest girls in the club..

    honestly, even if they were the hottest girls there, their bitchy attitude totally kills that for them.. u should actually feel bad for them.. approach #2 —> i’m sorry that you’re so hot but yet so ugly at the same time loll

    theres plenty of girls out there guys.. just go amuse yourself with all the women and don’t take anything personally.. it’s all for fun and games at the end of the day, and when girls see that they will automatically be attracted to u.. keep the ball in your court 😀

  20. Lane // July 6, 2013 at 12:14 am

    This is insane ….. these guys said da same thing ….delivery? are u sayin that ada guy doesn’t have character ……but dey both have character … so wats the ryt character dat works …. coz its not exactly much defferenc in da way the said it *Bit Confused *

  21. Lane // July 6, 2013 at 12:39 am


  22. Nick_Tamair // November 21, 2013 at 4:30 am

    Vid commentary – ‘evoke’, not ‘invoke’. But everything else fine.

  23. John M // April 27, 2014 at 7:38 pm

    I understand the cold side of women and that really does not intimidate me however I did just learn something from watching this video in the advice you just gave about how you say things to a women and put yourself out there , maybe I have slight confidence issues with this still even though my confidence in general is a lot higher than before where I could not even open a conversation.
    I think the other thing I have learnt is how someone responds to you is nothing to do with you its all to do with them but this advice is like really useful and I hope I can try to make use of it more.

  24. bohica // February 17, 2015 at 12:20 pm

    lets see tall dark and handsome he could of went blah blah blah and she would have been all over him

  25. saker_kuraish // June 7, 2015 at 6:57 pm

    May have in your mind some of the questions related to
    religion , and you must search for an answer to her, and this is nice to delve
    deeper into the person in matters of religion to draw closer to Allah more ,
    and when you search for something that Allah commanded us doing or forbidden to
    do but find great wisdom and interest to human

  26. Bill // January 17, 2016 at 5:38 am

    I am married but when I was single I didn’t tolerate rude people, male or female. I won’t waste one extra second with a rude person even if she looks like a 25 year old super model. I don’t know about you guys who are reading this but I don’t reward rude behavior from anyone.

  27. Bill // January 18, 2016 at 10:47 pm

    Another question I have: Why does a man need a “wing man” or a “wing girl” ? He is not flying a Air Force fighter jet, he is approaching a woman. Even if he gets turned down it does not take one penny out of his bank account nor does it affect his pension, job etc. I have met numerous prominent people, some of whom controlled many billions of your tax dollars and I didn’t need anyone to tell me what to say to them. This is being made far too difficult. No wonder single guys are having so many problems…

  28. Bill // January 20, 2016 at 4:02 am

    Here is something for you guys to consider