One Night Only: When Are Women Open To A One night Stand?
My Wing Girl Zoey tells you exactly when a woman is open to a one night stand!
I could have a one night stand, and I'm the kind of girl who looks over in the morning and is like, ‘Do you really have to be here?' I don't need to cuddle and do all that stuff because I know what it is and I don't try to make it more… I feel like a lot of women try to make it into more, so they don't feel so bad about just wanting to have sex. I don't really have a problem with just wanting sex. Never have… I just wanted to see what it was like to be with different people. I don't think a girl's a slut if she enjoys sex. – Jessica Alba in “Cosmo”
There's a common misconception that only a wanton slut, a Desperate Housewife, or DeDe the Dogfaced Girl would be the kind of woman open to a one-night stand. But many desirable women, Jessica Alba included, aren't afraid to satisfy their needs with no strings attached. Truth be told, a vast majority of women have enjoyed a single night of passionate, no rules, no meaning, simple satisfying sex. In the past we may not have admitted, even to our girlfriends, that we'd indulged in a one night stand for fear of being labeled and judged. But more and more women are embracing their own empowerment and sense of fun and adventure, while choosing to leave the judgments and labels in the dark ages where they belong.
We're all aware of the stereotypes of a weepy woman waiting by the phone for her one night stand wonder to fulfill his empty promise of “I'll call you…” or the wannabe-wife who believes a night of sex translates into choosing a caterer and color theme for the wedding. While these stereotypes are often the antithesis of real women, their desires and intentions, more than a few of us have had her feelings squashed by that troglodyte who wrote a check his ass couldn't (and never meant to) cash.
After a couple of these disappointments, some women determine to not be let down again by any man. She starts calling the shots, deciding with whom and when she wants to get laid; she becomes the architect of her own experience. Rather than finding herself panicked and lonely, the woman unafraid to love ‘em and leave ‘em indulges in a night of passion and then simply goes on leading her full life. Presented with the choice, she turns a one night stand into an experience instead of a disappointment.
For other women, spontaneity is simply a way of life. This type of girl grabs opportunity by the balls and rides it for all its worth. This type of adventure-girl believes life is too short to let an exciting opportunity pass her by. The right guy, the right place, and the chance to regale her girlfriends with another fantastic story, is too irresistible. This is her moment to enjoy her body and her sexuality with the right person to satisfy her needs at that time. Waiting around for a one night stand to take her out to breakfast is not her style. For the adventure-girl, what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas. Even when she's in Detroit.
Women are open to a one night stand on innumerable occasions, each with her own reason or for no reason at all. She might be too busy to be tied down by a long-term commitment or maybe obligations make her feel trapped. Perhaps she's living out a lifelong fantasy of going home with a sexy stranger. She might be on the rebound, unready for all the banal complications that come with dating someone new, but eager to sample some fresh flavors of men. Or maybe she just wants what Erica Jong termed a “zipless fuck”: Unapologetic sex with no stings attached, pure and free of ulterior motives and power plays. With no emotions involved, she's able to get out of her head and truly enjoy the chance to leave behind all the contrived rules about romantic encounters and just have wild, hot, meaningless sex. In between searching for our soul-mate and getting our hearts broken, who couldn't use zipless screw now and then?
Here is your chance to listen to 2 women talk about their experiences with a one night stand, why we had a one night stand and what makes us want to have a one night stand! Listen to the audio below: