Fashion and style is always a tricky topic for me. I can tell when someones outfit is bad but I don't know how to make suggestions on what would work for their body. The ability to do that is a definite skill. So when I wanted to write a piece about fashion for you, I contacted my girl Erin, an amazing stylist in NYC, and asked her to help me out by writing some instructions on what to wear for summer dating.
As much as I talk about the inside being the most important, which it is, sometimes the outside needs a little work too. From my own experience I know that when I dress correctly for my body and feel stylish and feminine, my confidence goes through the roof. I carry myself differently and therefore others around me take more notice. The same thing will happen to you.
Erin has written a list of her “must have” items for what to wear for summer dating along with some pictures so you can see what she means.
To find out more about Erin and work with her one-on-one (she works with men all over the world over skype) Click Here
What To Wear For Summer Dating
Hi I am Erin. I have been working with men in the PUA community as a Fashion Consultant for the past four years. It is truly my pleasure to work within a community of men that value themselves and women so much that they would be willing to face their own challenges and learn how to be the best possible version of themselves. I love it when a man comes to the realization that “whatever has been working for me in the past (or what I thought has been) isn't cutting it.” He realizes that it's time for a change, and those are the guys that I really hold near and dear to my heart.
Please read ahead for What To Wear Summer Dating: Essentials Summer Fashions, my top Fashion Don'ts and a break down of my favorite fashion essentials.
Essentials Summer Fashions:
*White light weight cotton button down in a short and long sleeve
*A pair of dark straight legged jeans
*A pair of khaki flat front slim shorts that are approximately one inch above the knee
*A white slim fit V-neck
*A light weight well fitted blazer in navy blue or khaki
*A pair of leather criss cross sandals
*A pair of brown leather wingtip style shoes aka oxfords; wear them sockless.
*A vintage or vintage-inspired straw type fedora
*A pair of Ray Ban Wayfarers or aviator type sunglasses
*A nice silver or gold simple neck chain with a meaningful pendant.
*An updated haircut, white teeth, and smooth skin.
*Do not wear embellished anything! No rips, studs, embroidery, graphics, rhinestones.
*Do not over saturate your hair with style products like gel, mouse or hairspray.
*Do not wear dirty sneakers other than to the gym.
*Do not wear jeans that are older than 3 years old, unless they are an amazing vintage pair.
*Do not wear cargo shorts with huge pockets and an army print.
*Do not wear cow-boy boots or pointy snake skin shoes.
*Do not have “shaped” eyebrows or artistic facial hair.
*Do not wear sporty type sunglasses like Oakleys.
*Do not have a long pony tail or a comb-over.
*Do not wear flashy jewelry.
Now onto the specifics. If you have any questions or even things to add, post them in the comments section at the bottom of the page. Your tips can be helpful to others.
T-shirt and Polos:
A simple black or white Calvin Klein V or crew neck T-shirt is a great way to look casual yet chic. V-necks are a great way to create the illusion of a slimmer neckline, particularly if you have a double chin, as they place emphasis on your chest area instead of on your neck.
Avoid “freebie t-shirts”, Logo t-shirts (Abercrombie/ Hollister types), anything Ed Hardy or Affliction, graphic logos, embellishments, and shirts with witty statements on them. Let's save these styles for the frat boys and the Jersey Shore. Slim fit Polos are the way to go. Please avoid popping the collar.
Button Downs are wonderful. They provide clean lines and are very flattering to all body types. “Slim fit” is the best. I notice that a lot of men don't wear the correct fit. Most of the time they tend to wear their button downs over-sized which tend to make their frame look “stocky”. So make sure that your fits your body. Avoid graphic and embellishments on button downs as well. Short sleeve button downs are a great way to look casual but well put together during hot days. Also I love the way it looks when a man rolls up his shirt sleeve to his elbows for a relaxed look. Both of the looks below are great.
Blazers are a great way to flatter any figure flaws. To make your upper body look more muscular, purchase blazers with light shoulder padding. Be warned that bigger is not better here, as small shoulder pads will give your back and chest a visual boost, but massive padding will make you seem like a small boy lost in a man's jacket. Wear jackets at the right length. When it comes to jackets, make sure they all fall right under your buttocks.
Denim or Slacks:
You really can't go wrong with a pair of straight leg dark or black denim. Wear it to the office with a white oxford and navy blazer or throw on a leather jacket for a street-ready look on the weekends. Avoid a lot of rips, tears, fades and embellishments. As for slacks I would avoid pleats as they add bulk and would stick to a slim flat front fit. Currently a rolled hem to about mid calf is very in style. This should look like an after thought as opposed to a perfect roll.
Don't wear cargo shorts (the ones with huge pockets). The secret to a great pair of men's shorts is finding ones that don't stray away from a straight line running from hip to hem. And speaking of hems, yours should always end an inch or two above the knee.
That sums up our Summer Essentials. Next week I am going to go over accessories and hair.
I know all this sounds a little overwhelming and it may even sound intimidating but it's actually very simple. A few tiny changes in your wardrobe can totally transform the way you feel.
TIP: Print out your summer list of your Summer Essentials and go to your local department store. Most big department stores have stylists that can assist you FOR FREE with picking out styles that work best for you. Even better, grab a girl at the store and tell her to dress you. Women like nothing better than to help men with fashion.
I have worked with Erin for over year and she has worked wonders on several of my clients.
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