How To Win Over A Bitch
29. Jul, 2011 
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Want to know how to win over a bitch?
From the pretty girl that punched you in the playground; to the model type that gave you a blank stare when you tried to buy her a drink last Friday: I bet you’ve encountered a really pretty girl, who just happens to be a total bitch.
Or at least you think she is: and you have no idea how to handle her tantrums, mean remarks and cold silences. She only seems capable of being nice to her girl friends or real players; and you have no idea how to show her you’re a decent guy, who deserves a lead role in her life.
Frustrating, huh?
Well I know you might not believe me when I say this, so bare with me, but sometimes it’s not that easy being super hot. You may think that it’s all queue jumping, free drinks, and apparently a license to be really mean to strangers; but if you speak to hot girls they’ll paint you a much less glamorous picture.
I’m a good friend of many seriously (Victoria Secret) hot women and they always complain to me about being judged in the same way: they sigh about how people often assume they’re dumb, bitchy or easy. Each of them will have a story to tell about a guy that only dated them for how they looked, their opinions not being taken seriously at work, and another woman being a real bitch to them… all because of how they look.
You can guess their reaction to always being isolated because of how they look: developing a shield of guarded, thorny behavior that will sting you if you get too close. In keeping you at arm’s length they’re not just trying to attack you though: they’re trying to defend themselves.
Ok, I know what you’re thinking as you read this, ‘Well that’s stupid, as that bitchy behavior is keeping me away: and I’m a really, genuine guy who would never mistreat a girl.’
And yes you’re right, the only guys that tend to be able to break through this girl’s defenses are usually exactly the kind of guy that she’d want to keep away: the total idiots. It would be great if these gorgeous girls realized that bitchiness isn’t a brilliant way to meet cool guys: but this is just how things are. I know, it’s not very logical, but this behavior is often not a conscious choice: it’s just a knee jerk reaction. Snapping at you to get out of their way is often no more of a well thought out response, than when you were caught out sneaking off school, and just said the first words that came flying out of your mouth.
Knowing why a hot girl sometimes acts like a bitch though will help you to figure out how to break down that barrier. You won’t be able to sooth it by being the ultimate Mr. Nice guy; because if you pander to her bad behavior, by doing whatever she wants, she’s not going to respect you. And these girls need a strong man they can trust to protect them; so that they don’t have to do the hard work themselves.
Check out the video I made for you below on How To Win Over A Bitch. I apologize in advance for the horrible quality of this video. It’s totally wonky, but the content is great. Click play to watch the video:
So, I want you to show her that you are not fazed by her bitchiness and that you can see beyond their tough exterior shell. Next time you get a bitchy response from a woman let it wash over you: don’t react in an overly emotional way. Instead try to see her behavior for what it really is: a defense. Be super cool: ignore her low blow.
A great technique to do this? Start interpreting her bitchy swipes as charming and endearing: instead of cruel and evil. Realize they’re not really aimed at you, and fall for the girl that wants to be cared for, not the great pair of legs she comes with.
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There are some trues here, I grant you that. There are all kinds of people and all kinds of women. However, I still do not totally agree with the defense thing. So many beautiful women are just so full of themselves. They get what they want and they use people to the nth degree. Beauty is currency and its a high value currency. For a guy to cut thru this, he needs something of high value to off set it such as being a hot guy himself or money or status of some sort.
Its a game women play. They know what they are doing. They have made a choice to date the jerk, there is no defense for that “defense.”
So all in all, I take this with a grain of salt. Beautiful who are bitch because they can be bitchy. Its not a defense. Its a choice. Totally.
Or a huge penis.
Money over bitches
Dealing with a bitchy woman, no thanks. Why would you want to?
I might be in the minority with this one, but I actually like the fact that a girl has a bitch shield.
Sure it can make things way more challenging for you in the beginning and there are probably far better ways of dealing with guys trying to hit on her, but it proves she’s not a total pushover or easy which surely is a good thing in its own cute and quirky way?
Generally tho, I believe that the biggest mistake us guys make is taking things far too personally. It’s actually rather egotistical, and makes us come across as emotionally needy.
Sure there are always going to be times when I still take things personally, either if I’m caught off guard, having one of those days d a bad day or something – nobody is perfect (although a lot of people will want you believe they are lol) and it’s just one of those things.
Basically if you can stop having unrealistic expectations (which ironically often stems from falling for too much of the pick up or dating sales hype about being able to attract any girl you want etc. lol), be honest with yourself about what you’re really after and why, and stop making dating and sex some personal crusade that will somehow validate you as a “real guy”, you’ll actually have far more fun with your life, be more confident and have some great experiences and stories
Great information Marni, I love the humour in the video, &, thanks for reminding me ‘it’s HOW you say it, compared to what you say. Thanks for the info, regards Dale
I have a classmate,she real hottie,all the guys are offering value to her/all this stuff.
I’m doing the opposite,totally ignoring her,she’s always being total “bitch”,towards me…all I do is ignore those “tests”,and comments,just saying…it wont impress me!!! =) ,while she’s giving me loads of “IOI-s”.
*slightly thouching me,moving closer,hair play,happy feet and stuff. =)
There’s the fun part of it,that the guys are mad at me somehow,I think it’s because I get her attention and she’s probably talking shit about me to other guys,like I’m being “Not Nice” towards her.
Hey Joel
I wouldn’t assume too many things about this girl (like that she’s necessarily ‘bad mouthing’ you)
It does sound like you’re getting signs of interest from her though, which is great. It also sounds like she’s the kind of girl who likes to be challenged and teased; however, you shouldn’t be 100% antagonistic towards her too- as you need to make a genuine connection too.
Maybe next time you tease her about not ‘impressing’ you you could tell her she’s cute when she’s mad, or tell her what would impress you. keep it playful smile, and see where this one goes.
Good luck
Marni
Marni,
The second guy was a far better looking guy than the first guy. Surely that had something to do with his success do you not think? If a short, balding guy used those same words, would it have been as successful? Please elaborate
Hey Randy
Neither being a little on the short side, or a little ‘thin on top’ are deal breakers for women! Confidence, masculinity and being a man who isn’t affected by the behavior of a woman he doesn’t know are all universally attractive qualities. Looking like a male model may buy you a few more seconds of time to make a good impression, but it’s not nearly as important as following that up with a great attitude
Marni
Hi Marni,
I love your positivity as you seem to be a total optimist. I’m not hating or anything but I certainly have a ways to go before I become that..
Any thoughts for someone in my stage of the game?
Hey Chuck,
Send me an email at marni@winggirlmethod.com with a little more info on you and we can discuss
Hey Charles,
I think that to begin with building that optimistic, positive outlook and view on your life is so important.
To do this build a great social circle, be healthy, take up activities that make you feel good- and enjoy your own company. When we’re comfortable in our own skin it makes us very attractive to others.
Good luck
Marni
“How To Win Over A Bitch”: Why would I want to do that?
Thank Marni. This blog post of yours has realy got me thinking about hot girls in a new way. I have a Q for you: telling a woman I think she’s beautiful, in my approach, is that a bad idea? I want to think more about caring for the girl and less about the hot legs she comes with, but…well, the hot legs probably attracted me in the first place. Am I too sincere? lol
Hey Donovan
it’s always great to talk to a girl about her personality: but if you just see her in the street you may not get the chance to know what she’s like. So you may have to approach using a physical compliment: but try to deliver this like it’s no big deal, don’t repeat the compliment, and quickly move on to other topics of conversation so that you can start getting to know her properly
Marni
Hi Marni,
You’re a talented and beautiful woman. Your advice is sure to help many a man. Unfortunately, most men will not benefit from interacting with a bitchy woman, even if they’re non-chalant. You see brothers, bitchy women are just like bitchy guys. They have a “bitch shield” up because you have no chance of getting her to respect you, even if you sleep with her, which is nothing to look forward, I assure you. Sleeping with a bitchy-type is like sleeping with a mannequin; She will literally strike a pose, and tell you to do all the work. One last thing men, NEVER EVER TAKE ADVICE ABOUT WOMEN FROM A WOMAN! Women are brilliant in many ways, but they are more alike then men are, and they display this in everything from Sex in the City, to Oprah. THEY CELEBRATE HAVING ONE VOICE. So man up, have some spine and realize women want you because you DON”T put up with their bs, NOT the other way around.
Hey Ian
Whilst I totally agree it’s a fantastic thing for guys to have strong personal boundaries; I do think that men can learn a lot from listening to women, not just other men, about dating. Sure, not all women (nor all men) will give good advice but there are trusted boices on btoh sides that have value to contribute. And I always think it’s best to get that perspective and broadern your knowledge… as there’s usually more than one piece to the jigsaw puzzle
Marni