How To Work A Room: Starting Conversations With Women
Want to know 3 easy ways to Start Conversations With Women?
3 Great Tips
Seek Common Ground
Discussing how you’re connected to the event or the host is an easy way to make someone you’ve never met open up and feel comfortable around you.
Marni Comment: I really like this one. It is an easy way to start conversation and get to know another person. From there you can relax and get more comfortable with each other.
Pay A Compliment
If, for example, a woman you’ve been introduced to is wearing a bracelet you admire, tell her you like it – and WHY (the WHY is the important part). This shows that you’re genuinely interested. Follow up with “Where did you get it?” or “What is it made of?” to keep the conversation going.
Marni Comment: One little note is to not get stuck on this topic of her bracelet. Be able to use this as an introduction and then transition into something else. Don’t get stuck in your compliment.
Ask Specific Questions
One of the best conversation starters is “What keeps you busy outside work?” Inquiring about someone’s career can dead-end, especially if the person has a boring job. But asking about personal interests will get them talking and will reveal a lot about them.
Marni Comment: This one is my favorite ways to get to know someone. It is where connections and common ground can be found. While asking this question take the time to think about whether or not you want to get to know this woman better based on her interests.
I would print out this list and look it over before going out to a social event. If you have this material on quick recall you will be able to relax because you know that you will always have something to say.
For more quick tips like this one I would check out Men’s Health. As I said above, it is one of my favorite magazines that has tons of information on general topics for men from Health, to Sex, to Cooking.
. As I said above, it is one of my favorite magazines that has tons of information on general topics for men from Health, to Sex, to Cooking.
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COMMON GROUND:
My favourite opener for parties: “Hey. You all seemed friendly. My name’s Tad (shake with everyone) So . . . how are you connected to all this madness?”
COMPLIMENTS:
If you’re going to compliment her jewelry or purse – consider that every other man in the world does this. Consider that she 100% gets it that you’re trying to flirt with her and start a conversation. So, why not out yourself early? Why not just say, “you know, this is a bit random but . . . I saw you walking by and I just had to come up and say hi to you. You’re too cute and . . . I knew i’d be kicking myself all week if i didn’t say hi. My name’s Tad . . . (she introduces herself) . . . and . . . I have to ask . . . and this is a make or break question for me. the future of our whole relationship hangs in the balance . . . what’s the story with your bracelet? I love the stones in it.”
Comment on her apparel. But don’t hide behind it.
QUESTIONS:
another angle . . . if you can ask an UNUSUAL question I find it even better.
Lance Mason gives these two examples. Instead of asking, “where are you from?” ask, “Where are you from originally?” You usually get more interesting answers and more connection to their childhood which is more interesting and full of emotion. Or asking them, “What do you love to do? What are you into these days? What are you fascinated by?” rather than, “What do you do?”
Ask yourself what questions women always get and ask another twist on them.
I was at a tea shop lately. They’re always asked, “What’s the best tea?” Every. Damned. Day. So I asked, “Hey . . . what’s your most under rated tea . . .” The fellow behind the counter paused. “Wow. I don’t know. That’s a great question. No one’s ever asked me that before.”
If you can ask good questions that no one else asks you will stand out.
This is very “tricky” advice…these suggestions could also lead you down a path towards very boring conversation. Must be executed very skillfully to avoid being bore at the party.
I definitely agree with Adonis. Some people get stuck on these topics and are not sure how to transition away when a conversation gets stale. I have talked to many men who obviously get nervous and don’t know what else to say so they focus on 1 topic until they kill it. By killing I mean totally losing all attraction between them and the woman they are speaking with.
The thing with conversation with women, in my opinion, is how important it is for the man to lead a conversation. This is another topic which we will be covering shortly.
I agree with these techniques on starting conversation and getting the ball rolling. It’s astonishing how many guys get hung up with what to say when they can just start with something fun and casual and work the conversation until something comes up that establishes a commonality. I call this “prospecting” and “playing”. It’s easy to do, ask interesting questions to get her talking and then play off the free information she gives you until you find something you can contribute to (all the while maintaining a fun vibe and being humorous). It’s easy to practice on strangers throughout the day to get better at it.
And to go off what you and Adonis said, I agree with that, too. Too boring and you kill your chances, which is why we practice these things to get more witty and throw in the teasing and flirting. But yeah.