We women have a belief about men and sex. It may not be correct belief but it's definitely a strong belief. We women believe that all men want sex.
That men just want sex and nothing else.
That most of their actions are driven to get sex.
That sex is a top priority and sometimes even higher than love.
You and I know that this is simply not true. But again, most women do not.
The reason I'm bringing up this topic is because over the weekend one of my email coaching clients wrote to me about this very topic and how it was effecting the woman/women in his life.
I won't go too deep into details but this client told me that on several occasions, he has been unable to “finish” when having sex with a woman. His reason for being unable to finish was valid. Biologically, on occasion, he just wasn't able to. It had nothing to do with how he felt about the woman in front of him.
Now speaking as a woman who has been on the receiving end of this type of biological phenomenon, when this happens we women immediately go to “Is it me? Why isn't he turned on by me? Is it my rolls? Do I smell? What?”…… Again, we women believe that men are ALL about sex and if he can't finish, it must be something we did.
We simply don't understand how your biology works and rely on our stereotype, media driven beliefs to provide us with our information. And the information we're receiving says men can do it a million times a day and want it just as often. And if you can't, there must be something wrong with us.
So what do you do the next time you don't finish so that your lady doesn't freeze up like an icicle and interpret your biological make up as a knock to her level of sexiness?
You tell her what's actually going on with you so that she understands it's not her and that men don't work the way she thinks. BE HONEST and tell her with confidence how you work.
THEN tell her to roll her sexy butt over so you pleasure her and make her happy 😉