How To Casually Date Multiple Women
Have you wanted to try casual dating with multiple women, but you're not sure how to pull it off? Are you worried about royally pissing a woman off?
I got an email recently asking me how to handle this predicament and I wanted to make to sure to tell you the advice I gave him that's both smooth and ethical.
Reader asks how to try casual dating as a single Dad:
Hi Marni! My name is Leslie. I'm a 47 yr old black guy. Divorced, 3 kids, 2 of which are living with me, helping them make the transition 2 adulthood.
With my hectic schedule, I've realized I can't really give a long-term relationship the time it needs (hence the end of my 2+ yr relationship last week). How do I date women knowing this?
And if I am dating a few women casually, do I tell other women this.
Here's what I said in my reply:
Let’s answer the first part of your question to start.
Basically, you are asking me if it's okay to explore casual dating with multiple women and explore seeing each of them often but not exclusively. Correct?
I'm all for you exploring your options and creating a life that is fun, exciting and that works for you.
It's ok to date multiple women
However, once you start involving others it can become tricky because your wants may not coincide with their wants.
As a note, this can even happen when both people have similar end goals, for example, a long term relationship.
My advice to you is to be honest with tact.
Through your actions always be honest
This does not mean telling a woman on the first date…
“Hey, I just want to let you know that I don't want anything serious. I’m totally not going to call you tomorrow no matter how well this date goes and I haven’t heard a word you said all night because I just want to sleep with you”.
It means, not leading a woman down a path that is false so that you can get what you want.
As long as you are being honest through your actions and not promising things that may give false hope, you are free to do whatever you want.
#1 rule: As long as you are not hurting, misleading OR being dishonest, you are allowed to do and ask for whatever you want.
So go out, have fun and date as many women as you like, just don’t be the jerk that leads them on or promises things he can’t provide.
Now onto part 2 of your question.
Do you tell her you are casual dating other women?
Hell no you don’t, unless they ask which they have every right to once you really get into dating or you are sleeping with them. And don’t respond with, “Yep dating four women, sleeping with two of them.”
Here’s how you answer this question so that the women will feel comfortable and also charged up by the fact that you are seeing other women.
Say something like…
“I am dating and trying to figure out what I want. Having said that, I am really enjoying my time with you and look forward to getting to know more about you.”
Remember, it's your life and these are personal details about it, but you also have to respect the women you are casually dating.
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