I recently figured out that our pets can teach us how to behave around women. It all has to do with giving a girl the right amount of affection and attention- AND at the right time. Here’s my experience…
“Aunty Marni, come and see what Pepe can do.”
Sally (the daughter of one of my besties) dragged me down the hallway into her bedroom.
The room was littered with half a dozen hamster cages, each with a single occupant.
“Pepe, come on out and say hi to Aunty Marni,” Sally said as she opened his cage door.
The little hamster sat there. Looked at us both suspiciously.
But then he crept closer to the door and Sally’s outstretched hands on the other side…
Before climbing up and out, resting in her 7-year-old palms.
“See Aunty Marni, he did it! He’s my favorite now out of all of them.”
Yet when I was at Sally’s place a few weeks before, Pepe was her least favorite hamster.
She’d gotten them all as a Christmas present, and the other five were all affectionate with her right away.
But not Pepe.
He never willingly came to Sally, which frustrated her. And she didn’t feel the same bond with him as the other hamsters.
Yet after three months of failed attempts to coax him out, one day he finally relented…
And Sally was over the moon.
That one action cemented him as her favorite out of all of them, something that’s unlikely to change.
When I saw this, I couldn’t help think that it’s just like dating…
And that you can learn a lot about women from this tiny little hamster.
You see, the reason Sally now feels more strongly towards Pepe than the other hamsters…
Is because he didn’t give her his approval and affection right from the start.
She had to put in time and effort to win that from him…
But once she got it, it was so much more rewarding than the other hamsters who gave it to her for nothing.
And as women, we feel the same way about the men we meet.
When a man gives us everything right away, there’s no challenge.
We know that we haven’t done anything to earn his affection yet… so it feels cheap and shallow.
And honestly, it makes us feel like he’s kind of desperate and has no other options.
It’s kind of like if you go to a job interview…
And as soon as you walk in the place, the interviewer says, “You’re hired”.
No questions. No conversation. No wanting to find out anything about you or if you’re even qualified.
If that happened, it’d set off some pretty big red flags, right?
You’d probably think it’s a pretty crappy company if they have zero criteria that employees have to meet.
Well, that’s how we feel when a man is 100% sold on us as soon as he sees us.
It smacks of desperation, and we never fully trust his motives.
Instead, you want to be more like Pepe.
I’m not saying take 3 months to warm up to a woman.
But don’t be so eager to give us all of your approval right out of that gate.
Give us the chance to win you over a little bit with our personality… so that it feels more meaningful when we finally do get you. (Remember, people don’t value something if they get it for nothing.)
However, you can’t show zero interest in us either.
Because if it feels like there’s no chance of you being into us, then we won’t waste our time thinking about you.
Rather, think of it as a balancing act between showing your interest… and being a challenge.
At its core, this is what good flirting is.
It builds excitement and tension by hinting that something may happen, but also suggesting that it won’t.
The problem is most guys don’t get this balancing act right…
And their attempts at flirting often do more harm than good.
That’s why I created the definitive guide to flirting, The F Formula.
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