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Mindset Problem That Most Guys Have And How To Fix It

October 28, 2022 By Marni Your Personal Wing Girl WGM

Is your brain killing your chances with women? See, most men have a huge problem inside their minds. A problem that forces them to repel women without even realizing it.

So if you've consumed all the dating advice that you can. Learned all the pickup lines and tricks and to be more interesting and great ways to flirt with girls, yet, you're somehow still unable to attract the women that you want, chances are it's your brain. It's your mindset. The mindset that is driving women away and keeping you dateless.

So bear with me for a second because I know you're about to click away but unless you fix your mindset, there's no trick or tactic in the world that can get you the women you want. That's why you have to read this article carefully because I'm about to share exactly what is wrong with your mindset at this very moment and how to fix this mindset.

How it's killing your chances with women without even realizing it and how one simple exercise can change your mindset and make you more attractive almost instantly. So pay attention, take notes, and read till the very end. Trust me, it's going to be worth your time. It's pretty awesome.

So first of all, let me tell you how I came across this mindset problem that most guys have. So in my private coaching group, I work with guys personally to improve their dating lives. Really, their lives overall. And during that process, I always ask guys to do two important exercises and this is generally at the start of the process.

The Brain Dump

One of the first exercises is called a brain dump and it is a brain dump. Without going into much detail, what I basically tell them is to write down all of their thoughts, and all their beliefs around the topic of women, dating, and themselves without filtering it.

Just dump it whatever comes to their mind should be captured on paper. Just dump out all your thoughts and beliefs and don't hold anything back. It's simple. It takes 10 minutes or less.

Noticing Your Gremlin

Okay and the second exercise is a little more interesting and I call it noticing your gremlin. And what this involves
is noticing your thoughts when you're out in real life interacting with a woman or thinking about interacting with a woman.

So I want to see what your brain tells you when you're in action. What that self-talk is like now? What is the point
of these two exercises? Well, it's simple. If I want to help a guy attract more women, I need to change his old behaviors, habits, and thoughts. To change his behavior and habits and thoughts, I need to change the way
he thinks and sees himself, sees the world. And to do that, I need to first get an idea of what his mindset is currently like.

What does he think?
What does he say to himself?
What does he say about himself?

And once I know, I can start incorporating change and helping him change. As his mindset shifts, his behavior follows. And with a change in behavior, comes a change in his results with women. It's literally like reprogramming a computer which is crazy.

But before you know it, the same guy who was terrified of talking to an attractive stranger is now getting more phone numbers and dates than he can handle. And that's what happens when you start the process of change at the mindset level. Your mindset is not good. Nothing's gonna work.

But anyways, I'm digressing. What I wanted to say was after the guys do these two exercises, they send me the documents with their written dumps, right? And I've had hundreds of thousands of guys do this and send all this crap to me.

So I've seen a lot of data and what I've noticed is this. Most of the thoughts guys have around women and then women and dating are self-deprecating, self-damaging, and self-sabotaging in nature. I see things like:

I will never meet a woman. A woman who actually wants me.
I'm too short for her.
I'm too ugly for her.
She likes other guys better.
I'm not worthy of her.
I don't know what to say.
What if I say everything wrong.
I'm never gonna get sexual with a girl.
What if she finds it creepy?
Everything I say is creepy.
I'm not her type.
I'm probably boring her as I hate myself.

They are awful things that come out of these guys, right? I can go on and on but you get the point. The pattern is a simple one. It's “I” followed by something discouraging that you're constantly reinforcing to yourself. Something that puts you down.

Now there's nothing surprising about this but if you're anxious around women and find it difficult to talk to them, you probably have similar thoughts as well going on in the background. The problem is what happens when you keep repeating these thoughts without any skepticism or without stopping them and what happens is that it becomes your truth, your reality. This is where you live.

So for example, let's take that thought: “I'm never gonna meet a girl who really wants me.”

If you keep repeating this to yourself, it becomes your truth. Your brain like literally buys into this belief because you've said it for so long and for so many times. Now every time you have an opportunity to interact with a girl your brain will make you anxious. So you don't engage with her. You don't flirt with her and don't attract her. After all, why bother? She's never gonna like you anyway. So it's trying to protect you. Why get hurt?

That's how your brain thinks. Your brain is there to protect you. Protect you from the pain of rejection and it makes you anxious or it makes you act in ways that repel the girl before anything can happen. So do you see what's happening here? Do you see how this process can harm you and how it's not even your fault? None of this is your fault because it's all in your subconscious.

So first, you have a negative thought about yourself, then your brain buys into those thoughts, and then to protect you
from the pain of rejection or anything else, it creates behaviors that make you avoid or repel women.

So if I had to put it in one sentence, I would say a negative mindset activates defense mechanisms that kills your chances with women. Self-sabotage. Now I know what you're thinking. What's the solution, right?

I mean there is a solution. How do you get rid of this negative mindset? This mindset puts you down. Well, the truth is that it takes time and there are multiple things you can do. However, there's one simple exercise that you can do to jump-start the process of changing this mindset. Actually, there are three.

The Lawyer Trick

Here's how it works. First of all, you need to go through the brain dump exercise and then notice your gremlin and exercise. So you know what this stuff is saying to you. You need to jot down your negative beliefs and you need to be aware of what you're telling yourself. You need to be able to see them in front of you.

Once that's done, here's what you do. You pretend to be your own lawyer and ask yourself the question. Can I prove this in court? So then, it's time for you to defend yourself against these self-deprecating accusations that have been laid out upon you by the gremlins in your head.

So you've got all the dump of the emotions and the thing that's going on subconsciously. Now you're logically going to see if it's right or wrong. So your job is to look at each of these negative thoughts and prove it wrong. Prove it wrong in court.

So for instance, let's go back to that thought again: “I will never meet a girl who wants me or who loves me or who can care about me.”

How would you go about disproving this in front of a jury? If you've dated girls in the past that could be exhibited. Maybe you look at the world around you. Look how so many normal guys like you have beautiful girls who love them. Maybe you question the very basis of that argument made by the gremlin.

How did you come to the conclusion that you'll never meet a girl who wants you? Why is that true? How many interactions did you have where you genuinely took a shot with a girl? Do you see where I'm going? Is there enough data to reach that exact conclusion?

Most guys get rejected by a girl or two a week and they think they'll never meet a girl who likes them. How crazy is that? There are billions of women in the world and you think not even one will want you. Seriously, is that even possible?

Now, let's say for argument's sake that you're really at the bottom of the barrel right now. And maybe you're the most unattractive guy on the planet which is obviously not true but let's just pretend because that's the way that you see yourself.

What if you worked on yourself? Improved yourself, improved your behavior, and made yourself more attractive like because you had a style consult spiffy you up. What if like any other skill you develop the skill of talking to women in an attractive way, would you still not get a single girl to like you? Isn't that like going to the gym, working out regularly, and still not seeing any results? Is that even possible?

You see what I'm doing here. I'm giving the jury reasons to not buy into this gremlins idea and it's kind of a fun exercise. If you do it yourself and try to disprove every negative thought your inner gremlin comes up with, you're gonna see an instant boost in your level of confidence and self-esteem.

So I recommend you do this a couple of times because the gremlins in your brain will keep coming up with those same negative thoughts over and over and over again. And they've been there for a long time telling you the same story.

So it relies on repetition to get your brain to believe things. That's why you have to respond with your own arguments over and over and over again. Your logical brain has to kick in. So after a couple of times, you'll see that the gremlins
started to shut up, right?

And when that happens, your mind will be ripe for adopting new behaviors and new mindsets that will actually help you attract women. So one of my programs, The INSIDhER Program is an excellent resource on what behaviors and mindsets attract women. Plus it even helps to incorporate these behaviors and mindsets into your system, your being in less than 30 days.

So if that interests you which I think it should, Click here and have a look at it because thousands and thousands of guys have gone through this exact program and have seen a radical shift in their results with women.

By shift, I mean they're getting more phone numbers. They're getting more dates. They're getting more sexual experiences than ever before. And there's no reason why you can't have the same success. All you have to do is give it a try. Click here to check the INSIDhER Program.

5 Types of Women Who Will Cheat On You

October 21, 2022 By Marni Your Personal Wing Girl WGM

Today, I wanna do something to protect you from being cheated on. I'm going to share the 5 types of women who will cheat on you.

Being cheated on hurts. And not only does it hurt, but it also shatters your self-esteem and breaks your will to trust someone again. It’s a nasty thing. That's why I wanna tell you exactly what type of women are guaranteed to end up cheating…

So you can be careful and avoid the unbearable pain caused by infidelity. The rate of infidelity in relationships is already on the rise. And more men are being cheated on than ever before. I don’t want you to be one of those men.

So I highly recommend that you read this article till the very end. Believe me, you’ll be glad you did. Here are the 5 types of women who will cheat on you:

Type #1: The One With Low Self Esteem

I’m talking about a woman who feels absolutely terrible about herself. And constantly needs reasons or ways to feel good. She needs to please herself in whatever way possible to get rid of that feeling of self-hatred. A woman in this situation is likely to indulge in heavy drinking, frequent partying, drug abuse, and any other form of instant gratification she can get.

Moreover, she’s likely to flirt with other guys often, continue to use dating apps and social media platforms to meet people, and even reach out to her exes from time to time. Indulging in activities like these gives her the constant self-gratification that she so desperately craves. And if one day she wants to have an affair to make herself feel good, she most likely won’t hesitate.

Type #2: The Spoiled Brat

Just like a woman with extremely low self-esteem, the spoiled brat is also someone who needs constant self-gratification. But her need stems from a different place.

You see, a spoiled brat is a woman who has been put on a pedestal all her life. She has never been told NOT to do something. And no one has called her out on her bad behaviors. Basically, all her life she has had a free pass to do whatever she wants – and face no repercussions whatsoever.

When you’ve had a life experience of that kind, you’re likely to value self-gratification over anything else. You’re likely to overlook other people’s feelings and desires and focus only on pleasing yourself. This obviously doesn’t work in a relationship… because in a relationship… you have to consider and respect each other’s emotions and needs.

And more importantly, you have to put your own desires aside at times and make compromises. The spoiled brat archetype is unlikely to do so. If things are not going too well in a relationship or if she’s just plain bored, she might look elsewhere to fulfill her desires. Without thinking about the consequences of her actions.

Type #3: The One Driven By Your Jealousy

A relationship where cheating almost always ends up happening is one where one partner is hyper-possessive and jealous. Imagine this:

If you were dating somebody who regularly looked through your phone without permission, demanded to know where you were at all times, got pissed off every time you went out with your friends without her, and screamed at you if you go a single day without calling or texting, would you cheat on her or not?

I mean, this person is essentially treating you like you already cheated, even though you did nothing wrong. So why not cheat? It won’t get any worse. And that’s exactly what happens.

A woman might think… “Well, my boyfriend yells at me every day anyway, and now that I’m with my friends and we’ve had a few shots, I realize I haven’t been happy with him in about a year. So yeah, why don’t I kiss this attractive guy hitting on me right now? He’s actually nice to me. He makes me feel good. And I’m going to get yelled at when I go home anyway. So why not?”

And right there, you get cheated on. Now look, almost every relationship will have a little bit of jealousy involved. That’s normal. But extreme jealousy… that kind where you just can’t trust your partner… is super toxic. It communicates that you’re highly insecure which makes you unattractive. And it makes your partner’s life miserable to the point where she’s tempted to cheat.

By the way, if you are dating someone and want to know if they’re secretly cheating on you… I have a video that goes over the 10 red-hot signs that confirm your partner is cheating. These signs are very subtle and often overlooked. So you might wanna see that video after this one. I recommend you check it out. Because it’s better to find out sooner than later.

Type #4: The One You Do Everything For

A common pattern you’ll see in relationships where cheating happens is where one person does everything for the other person. They take care of them, give them everything they want, and in most cases support them. Now that person feels like they’re being the perfect partner, but then what happens? They get cheated on.

I recently read an article that described this exact situation. A man who was married to his wife for over 10 years filed for divorce after he caught her cheating. This man said that he was shocked and devastated because he didn’t know what went wrong. He did everything for her. Why did she do this to him? Well, here’s the reason why.

You see, when you do everything for your partner when you take care of all of their problems and show them that no matter what happens you will always make it better for them, you show them that there are essentially no repercussions for their actions. They can do whatever. And it will always be okay.

So they go ahead and do something like have an affair and cheat on you. Without worrying about any consequences. I mean, think about it… it might seem unfair, but you’re enabling this behavior. You’re basically turning them into that spoilt brat archetype we talked about.

If you don’t assert healthy boundaries in your relationship and give your partner the license to do whatever they want, and you solve every problem they face… That doesn’t make you a great partner.

A healthy relationship requires that you say no to each other at times. That you stand up for yourselves. Assert your boundaries. Convey your individual needs. And decide what is and isn’t acceptable in your relationship. That’s the price of a healthy, long-term relationship.

Type #5: The One Who Feels Neglected

This is common sense. If a woman feels neglected by her partner, she will be tempted to look elsewhere. In a relationship, you want your significant other to give you attention. To spend time with you. To show that they care about you.

When these things don’t happen, you feel like you’re not loved or valued anymore. And it drives women crazy. Most women need frequent reassurance. We need to feel like you’re still interested. That you’re invested in the relationship. And it’s one of your top priorities.

So if you’re one of those guys who stop putting effort into a relationship after those first couple of months… If stop giving your partner the attention, time, and support that she needs… If you don’t show her that you’re still interested in her… You can bet that she’s gonna be miserable. And there’s a good chance she’s gonna start looking elsewhere. Which means, she will either end things with you or end up cheating.

The solution here, as you can probably guess, is to not neglect your partner. Far too many people are guilty of this in a long-term relationship. But you have to remember to show your commitment to your partner. To show your love.

Research shows that the #1 predictor of a lasting relationship is our perception of our partner’s commitment to the relationship. Put simply, if we feel that our partner is interested in us and committed to the relationship, the relationship is more likely to last. If we don’t, well, you know what might happen then.

Lastly, if want to know more about making a relationship last… And if you’re serious about having an amazing, passionate, and stress-free relationship with a beautiful woman of your choice… I recommend you check out my program Beyond Attraction. It’s the ultimate guide to finding and maintaining a healthy relationship.

Inside this program, you’ll discover how to build an unbreakable connection with the woman you like, and make sure she’s absolutely 100% committed to you and you alone. You’ll learn to avoid the common mistakes guys make that result in lost attraction, less sex, and painful breakups. And you’ll find out how to make women completely devote themselves to you.

Whether you’re single right now or in a relationship, I believe this program can help you either way. If you feel the same way then check out Beyond Attraction.

How To Look Confident Around Women

October 14, 2022 By Every Mans Wing Girl

I got a question recently that read like this: “Marni, I’m a huge fan. I read your newsletter every day but… I’m still absolutely terrified to approach women. What can I do? How to look confident around women?”

It’s a good question. And it’s SO common among the men I work with. They read my newsletters. Watch my videos. Even do my programs. And they learn everything there is to know about attracting women.

But when that one gorgeous stunner walks by… They just don’t find the confidence to go talk to her. Fear takes over. And they freeze. I’ve seen this happen to guys over and over.

The good news is: The solution is simple. I have 3 go-to methods to help guys deal with the fear of approaching women. These 3 methods have always worked like a charm for the guys I work with.

So I thought I’ll write an article on it today so more men can try these 3 simple methods… And turn their fear into rock-solid confidence. You’ll never hesitate to approach beautiful women again after you finish reading this article.

Here are my 3 go-to methods to beat approach anxiety and unlock confidence:

Method #1: The Mindset Tweak

Whenever I’m working with a guy who’s scared to approach women… The first thing I notice is that his mindset is in the wrong place. More accurately, he puts a LOT of pressure on the mind. He has huge expectations of himself. He wants to guarantee that the approach is a big success.

And by big success, he typically means… He wants to introduce himself to the girl by saying something clever… Something that hooks her attention…

He wants the conversation to be super interesting for the girl, wants to make her laugh, wants her to be turned on by him, and wants to walk away with her number and a guaranteed date… These are the expectations he has.

And look, it’s understandable. Most guys who see a pretty woman they wanna talk to… will hope for similar things… But the problem is, these are massive expectations. And it puts an ungodly amount of pressure on your brain.

After all, you’re giving it so many goals to focus on. Our brain wasn’t built to multitask like that. It gets overwhelming when you focus on too many things at once. So here’s what I say to a guy in this situation…

First of all… I teach him the O.S.A method. The O.S.A method shows guys how to start a conversation with a woman in practically any situation. In other words… It’s a conversation-starting technique that works in any setting, in any situation. This takes care of the whole “I don’t know what to say to her” problem.

If you wanna learn more about it, you can watch this video where I reveal the OSA technique in detail. It’s very simple. And I think you’ll love it.

Anyways, so after I teach the guy the OSA technique… I tell him to change his focus and focus ONLY on approaching the girl. Focus on just making contact. That’s it. If you wanna walk away right after you start the conversation, that’s absolutely fine. Just focus on making that approach. Making contact. That’s it.

Once the guy makes this simple tweak to his mindset… Something wonderful happens. He feels lighter. The weight of his massive expectations has been removed from his shoulder. Suddenly, he feels a subtle sense of confidence in himself. He feels like he can do it and can talk to the pretty girl. It’s not that hard. So he walks up to the girl and makes contact.

Now what’s even more interesting is that… The first couple of approaches he might walk away right after making contact… But… By approach 5, 6 or 7… He’s comfortable enough to push it more. Meaning, he talks more and starts to engage in a longer conversation. Without me telling him to do it. I’ve seen this pattern play out many times. And it’s wonderful.

You can see that the anxiety has reduced a lot. And a new sense of confidence has developed. And all it took was a simple tweak to his mindset. Try it. And you’ll see similar results too.

Method #2: The Fear Transfer

Like I said before, it’s very common for men to be TERRIFIED of approaching women but… Do you know what you should be more afraid of? NOT approaching. Every time you become too scared to act, I want you to think of and be afraid of what you’ll miss out on if you don’t approach.

What if you miss out on the girl of your dreams?
What if she was actually looking forward to meet a guy like you?
What if you missed out on one of the best dates of your life? Or the best relationship of your life? Or the best sex of your life?

Look, fear can be great if you use it as a tool. If you channel it in the right direction. And that’s what this technique is all about. Instead of fearing what she might think of you… Fear what you might miss out on. Fear the regret you’ll have walking away having said nothing.

In fact, it might even help to remember incidents where you walked away from a pretty girl… and instantly regretted it. Relive that regret. Use it to your advantage. If you do this right, something will snap inside of you. And suddenly your mind’s gonna be like… “Screw it, let’s just do it” or “Let’s see what happens”

You’ll get a sudden boost of motivation and drive. That will push you to do the approach. Once again, a very effective method. Definitely worth trying.

Method #3: Confidence Through Competence

One thing I always ask my guys is this: “Are you scared of the approach or… Are you scared because you don’t know what to say or do?”

Most of the time, what’s disguised as fear of the actual approach is actually just not knowing what to do. It’s very common. A guy thinks he’s scared of talking to women… But in reality, it’s just that he doesn’t know what to say to her…

How to hold a conversation that generates interest and attraction. Once he learns exactly what to say and do in a conversation… Exactly how to create attraction… The fear vanishes. His new level of competence gives him rock solid confidence. And it’s true for anything in life.

If you don’t know how to drive, you’ll be extremely nervous if asked to handle a car. But once you learn exactly what to do, you become more comfortable. More confident. Gaining competence is always the fastest way to build unshakable confidence.

When it comes to meeting women… If you know exactly what to say and do… If you have a blueprint of it in your mind… You’ll never be scared to talk to girls. In fact, you’d be excited every time a pretty lady walks by. You’ll know that you have what it takes to engage her in an interesting conversation and potentially walk away with a date.

Now, I know what you’re thinking… But Marni, how do I become more competent at talking to girls? And the answer is simple. You work with me and one of my Wing Girls and you practice with me or one of my Wing Girls on a weekly basis. And learn exactly how to have a flirty conversation.

You practice in a safe environment where you're not interacting with the girl that you're really interested in. You're interacting with one of my wing girls who is going to:

Let you practice
Give you feedback
Give you the tweaks that you need to be able to talk to women effortlessly and successfully

So that you can build and create lasting attraction. I want to teach you how to do this. I want to work with you. My wing girls want to do this for you. We want to teach you all of this stuff.

So to find out more about this, click this link and sign up for one of our free strategy sessions with my Wing Girls and we will tell you all about how to get you that safe practice that will make you a king in conversation.

I’m sure you’ll love it.

The Best Spots to Touch a Woman

September 9, 2022 By Marni Your Personal Wing Girl WGM

Touch is one of the most powerful ways to connect with a woman and there are some best spots to touch a woman that you should know. In fact, without it, you can never escalate with her sexually. And you’ll almost always end up in the friend zone.

The problem is: that most men are afraid to initiate touch. Especially in this MeToo era. I get so many emails from guys telling me how they get anxious when it comes to touching a girl. They don’t wanna be creepy or make girls uncomfortable. And that’s a good concern to have.

But initiating touch and escalating it is easier than you think. If done right, it will create a lot of trust and attraction. That’s why I wanna talk about the 11 places women LOVE to be touched and how to make sure that she’s never uncomfortable with your touch.

After reading this, you’ll never be afraid to initiate touch with a woman again. There will be no doubt in your mind about what to do and what not to do. And you’ll find it much easier to connect with women physically and build sexual attraction.

So before I get into where to touch a woman, I wanna give you three rules for touching a woman. These two rules will ensure that you touch women in the right way and never make them too uncomfortable. As long as you keep these three rules in mind, I don’t think you’ll ever creep a woman out or push her away because of your touch. So here we go…

Rule #1: Test & Improvise

Now I’m gonna give you a bunch of places and a bunch of ways to touch a woman. When you start touching women in those spots and those exact ways, I want to keep a note of her comfort level. For example, if you touch her waist, is she okay with that? Are there any signs of discomfort on her face? Does she squirm or move away? If there’s any sign of discomfort, you gotta take it down a notch. She’s not ready for that level of touch yet.

So you stick to the more platonic spots to touch her. Like her hands or arms. It’s all about testing and improvising. Touch, she how she reacts, then decide whether to stick or twist. It’s very simple. You’re just adjusting your touch based on her response. And women will appreciate that.

Rule #2: Commit

Do you know when a touch becomes awkward or creepy? When you half-ass it. If you seem unsure while touching a woman, she’s gonna be unsure about you. If you think that it’s wrong or bad to touch her, then she’s gonna assume the same thing. People accept what you project. A lack of commitment shows discomfort and nervousness. So you need to commit. Don’t half-ass it. If you’re gonna touch her, touch her. If she’s bothered by it, remember Rule #1 and improvise.

Rule #3: The 3 Second Rule

When you touch a girl, don’t linger on for too long. Most forms of touch should last around 1-3 seconds. Of course this doesn’t really apply to the more sexual forms of physical contact like kissing and stuff… But when things are not that serious between the two of you… it’s best to keep your touches short & simple. One to three seconds. Not more than that. That will make sure that you’re coming on too strong and making her uncomfortable. And that’s it.

As I said before, as long as you keep these three rules in mind, you’ll be fine when touching a woman. You have nothing to worry about. So with that out of the way, now let’s get into the “Where to Touch” part. I’m gonna give you the 11 best spots to touch a woman. Take note of these so you remember them the next time you meet a woman. Let’s start.

Her Hands

This is one of the safest and easiest places to touch a woman. When you meet her for the first time, look her in the eye, smile and give her the first handshake. If she says something funny or something you agree with, give her a playful high five. Then if you’re handing her something, let your hands brush up against each other. Another example is if you wanna tease her a little, you could compare hand sizes with her and make some joke about it.

If you’re in a conversation and joking around, you can even take her hand and do a fake palm read. Just make something up. Something absurd or maybe even a little sexual. It can be a great way to flirt. And well is a great way to initiate touch. The best part is, no one really minds being touched on the hands. So it’s the perfect way to break the touch barrier. And build physical comfort.

Her Arms

At first glance, the arms might not seem like a particularly sexy part of the body. In fact, it can probably seem very platonic. However, studies about sexual touching have turned up some interesting results. In one report, researchers from Aberdeen University discovered that two-thirds of women agreed to dance if a man touched her arm while asking. By contrast, men who asked without touching were only successful half of the time. The study also showed that women were more likely to give their number to men who touched their arms when asking.

So don’t underestimate the power of touching her arm. Women often do it to men when they’re interested in them. It may be a subtle move, but it can say and do a lot. And there are plenty of ways to touch her arm as well. Maybe if you guys are joking around, you can give her a playful nudge on the arm. If she’s telling you a meaningful emotional story, you can touch her arm and nod showing that you are empathising with her.

You can even stand or sit close to her and let your arms touch. The opportunities are endless. When you get the chance, take it. Like hands, touching on the arm is also super platonic and socially acceptable, so you don’t need to worry about anything.

Her Shoulders

This is a safe and easy spot to touch a girl. Especially when things are not that serious. Touching her on the shoulder doesn’t invade her private space. But it does give a hint that you might be interested in her. Touching her on the shoulders could be as simple as a gentle tap to get her attention. Or, If you’re at a bar or club dancing together, you could place a hand on her shoulder. There are lots of ways to do this. The point is, it’s a nice place to touch. And most women won’t have a problem with it. This means it’s an easy way to build physical comfort.

Her Back

This is another fantastic place to touch a woman. And trust me, we really love it. But where on her back should you touch her? And where should you avoid touching her? Well, if it’s too high, she might think you just wanna be friends because that’s a very friend-like touch to make. If you go too low, she might think you’re a pervert trying to grab her ass. So instead, a great rule of thumb is to touch her around her shoulder blade or a little lower. That’s ideal.

There’s something so comforting and attractive about a guy when he puts his arm or hand on a woman’s back. Maybe if you’re guiding her, leaning in to talk, or something like that, it’ll give her butterflies. It’ll make her feel like you’re sheltering her and being protective, and it’s adorable.

Her Legs

Many guys think it’s inappropriate to touch a woman’s legs. And yes, it can be when done wrong. So how to make sure you don’t do it wrong? Well, when things are not yet serious between you two, avoid her inner thighs, the back of her knees or going too close to her crotch area. When you’re getting to know each other, it’s best to stick to a few gentle touches on her upper thighs. Near her knees. You can do this while sitting next to her as you talk to each other.

Or if you sit close to each other, you can even let your legs graze against each other. The thing to keep in mind is Rule #3 of touching. The 3-second rule. Don’t linger on too long. The legs are not a platonic area. It’s a little more flirty and sexual. While touching her leg will give her a good sign of her interest, letting it linger for too long can make her think you’re a pervert.

Her Hair

It’s actually super cute when a guy plays with your hair, or if you just kind of brush her hair, maybe tuck it out of her face or behind her ear. Those little things make her feel feminine and pretty. It makes her smile on the inside and thinks, “Oh, he really likes my hair”. Obviously, don’t overdo it. And be sure to gauge how she reacts. Some women don’t like their hair messed up, especially if they worked really hard to make it look good for the date with you. But overall, it’s an extremely cute way to touch her.

Her Waist

Studies show that women on average prefer a man who’s confident and assertive. And if you watch my channel, you’ve heard me say this a million times. Well, what you may not know is that touching her waist is actually a great way to show assertiveness. And there are many ways to do this. For example, if you’re standing next to her, you can put your hand on her waist. If you’re hugging her, you can put your arms around her waist.

If you’re on the dance floor you can grab her by the waist and give her a playful tug. And of course, when you kiss her, you can put your hands on her waist. It’s a really powerful and assertive thing to do. But at the same time, it’s really cute as well. It will make her feel protected and very feminine, which will obviously drive up her attraction to you.

Her Neck

The neck is a highly sensitive area for women. Most women love to be touched or kissed on the neck. It can send shivers down her spine. Just don’t be too aggressive. If you hold her neck, don’t put it in a death grip. If you’re kissing the neck, don’t get over-enthusiastic about it. Take it slow. Be gentle. It will turn her on like crazy. And it can be a great tool in your foreplay arsenal.

Ear Lobes

This might be a surprise to you but… Touching, kissing and even lightly biting the earlobes of your woman will up the bliss factor for her. These delicate, soft lobes are highly sensitive and most women thoroughly love the sensation of having a man’s lips on them. You can nibble around the outside of the rest of her ear as well, but for courtesy’s sake avoid jamming your tongue inside her ear. This is yet another great tool for your foreplay toolbox. Stimulating her earlobes will really drive her crazy and eager to take things to the next level.

Inner Thighs

Touching her inner thighs without venturing into the vaginal area will make for an excellent tease that is sure to get her revved up. Use your hands and mouth to caress and kiss the insides of her thighs, getting super close to her ultimate pleasure spot, but pulling back before going all the way. Trust me, you’ll send shivers down her spine, make her toes curl and have her begging for more.

Feet

There is no way to overstate the seductive power of a really good foot massage. Not only does a foot rub feel amazing – it lets a woman know her man truly cares about her well-being. If you wanna do it right and grab some massage oil or lotion. And don’t forget to pay some attention to her toes, ankles and the sides of her feet too. Additionally, some women really enjoy having their toes sucked, but many others find it repulsive. So you can ask about that as well. And see if she’s into it. If she is, it could be another great way to pleasure her body.

But anyways, that brings us to the end of our list. Now you know 11 great spots to touch a woman. Some are more platonic. And some are highly sexual. To get to the sexual stuff, you need to make sure she’s ready to take things to that next level with you. I have an amazing program called the F Formula which can show you how to get her to that stage almost effortlessly. You can check it out by clicking the link in the description below.

The F Formula gives you a simple, step-by-step method to turn a woman on, build sexual chemistry and make her eager to date you, sleep with you and even be your girlfriend. The steps outlined in the F Formula are ridiculously easy for any guy to follow. And you can master it within a week or two.

What’s more… 1000s of my clients have already used this amazing formula to attract, date and get into relationships with gorgeous, high-quality women. Guys who didn’t even have the courage to say hello to a pretty girl are now able to get numbers, dates and hot sexual encounters with amazing women thanks to this simple formula. There’s no reason why it can’t do the same for you. So if you’re interested, check out the F Formula. I’m sure you’ll love it.

4 Forms of Intimacy to Master in Your Relationship

August 19, 2022 By Marni Your Personal Wing Girl WGM

Relationships all around the world demonstrate affection in many different ways. Some relationships display affection more publicly while others share their moments only behind closed doors. When looking for a relationship, the average individual hopes that not only will their relationship be romantic, but that there is plenty of intimacy involved, both in and out of the bedroom.

Throughout the years, views on intimacy in the bedroom have evolved tremendously. In previous generations, couples rarely discussed their sex life with their peers, whereas now individuals are more open to sharing tips on how to have a better sex life. As a result, we have learned how each form of intimacy goes hand and hand.

What Do We Look For in Being Intimate?

What types of intimacy in a relationship are we looking for when receiving and displaying affection to our partner? Here are some ways that intimacy is shown in committed couples and how they work together:

Connect Emotionally

Emotional intimacy is a crucial aspect of displaying affection with someone. Displays of this kind can look as simple as doing daily check-ins with your partner, giving words of affirmation, or spending quality time together. Connecting emotionally in your relationship is special as it gains trust and a deeper connection with your partner.

Be There Mentally

Being there mentally while dating is just as significant as being there emotionally. This means that you are engaged in listening to whatever is going on in their life, both good and bad. Sometimes that means being a safe space for the one that you love to be vulnerable or taking the time to help them handle a situation they might be going through. A great example could be communicating and connecting from a spiritual aspect. This isn’t just sitting and discussing religious views but stimulating closeness by sharing poignant moments together. Examples of this can be going on a hike and enjoying the view together at the top or having discussions that deepen the understanding of one another.

Get Physical

This by far is the most obvious type of intimacy. In fact, it’s one of the most important aspects and benefits of being with the one you care for. Physical intimacy can be expressed in many ways, you have the basics such as holding hands, cuddling, and of course, what goes down in the bedroom. Sexual intercourse does not only give you an opportunity to express affection to your partner. It can also strengthen your bond on a new level.

Communication is just as important as the physical acts themselves. Communicating openly about physical intimacy is important to discuss with your partner so you each are aware of what your likes and dislikes are, especially with intercourse. Doing this will not only improve your sex life but also help you both maneuver through physical obstacles you and your partner may face. These obstacles may include erectile dysfunction, pain during sex, or any other sexual health-related concerns you may have. This topic can be uncomfortable to discuss but doing so will allow you both understanding and the confidence to seek medical advice so that you both can get back to sexually thriving in your relationship.

Maintain Good Communication

Never stop communicating with your partner. If you want to maintain a healthy relationship both in and out of the bedroom, communication is key. Be clear in what you want in your relationship by being clear on your expectations and needs. This can be handled in a variety of ways such as sharing and setting boundaries, making sure you are staying open to feedback from your partner and listening well by giving your undivided attention to each other. If you follow these simple pieces of advice, there will be less conflict and your communication will only grow each day.

Keep all of these thoughts in mind when you’re getting into a new relationship or trying to improve the relationship that you are already in. It’s going to be very helpful and beneficial for both of you in the long run. Maybe you will learn something new about each other and every day can be a new adventure!

How to Turn A Woman On Without Touching Her

July 29, 2022 By Marni Your Personal Wing Girl WGM

You can turn a woman on without touching her and get her hot and excited by simply using your words the right way.

You see, the most powerful sexual organ every woman has is the brain. The brain holds the ultimate trigger for a woman’s desire and sex drive. By using your words and flirting with her the right way, you can pull that trigger and unleash her sexual side.

In this article, I’m gonna show you exactly how to do that. I’ll show you what to do to turn a woman on without touching her and just using your words. And, I’m also gonna tell you what common mistakes you must avoid when having a flirtatious or sexually charged conversation with a woman.

What you’ll discover in this article will be extremely useful the next time you talk to a girl you like. You don’t wanna miss any of it.

So, in order to turn a woman on without touching her, you need to have sexually charged conversations. Sexual conversations will get her excited about you and being with you. But the problem is, that sexualizing the conversation without looking creepy or desperate is something most men are unable to do.

In fact, most men I work with are downright scared to turn anything sexual out of fear of being creepy which I totally get. What most guys don’t understand is that the key to sexually charged conversations lies in being subtle. You have to say a lot while saying a little. When you’re just starting to talk to a girl, you can’t be super direct about your sexual intentions. Almost everything has to be implied or suggested.

Then once you’ve slept with her or sexted with her at least, you can be more direct and obvious. Here’s why subtlety is so important. When you’re too forward too soon, it triggers a lot of sexual shame for a woman. Most women are deal with some sort of shame about their sexual desires from family, friends, religion, or culture. Even though everyone wants sex, they may feel wrong about it. They may feel they’re being “too dirty” or “slutty” or “too easy”.

If a girl has those negative thoughts and starts to question herself, that shame will almost always win out, no matter how much she liked you. The best way to overcome that shame is by making her feel progressively aroused. That means, you start small and subtle so that she starts to feel sexual without feeling it’s wrong. Instead of being overtly sexual and triggering shame, you ease into it basically.

Another reason why being subtle is important is that… if you’re too forward too fast… Women will think you’re attracted for the wrong reasons.

Look, we know physical looks attract men. But we also want to know that you’re excited by us specifically, and not just because of our appearance. We want to feel like our beauty may have sparked your interest, but our personality and connection with you is what continue to build your attraction.

If you’re acting super sexual from the beginning, a girl will think you’re only in it to get laid and see her as a target. So instead, you need gradually build up to more sexual stuff… as you get to know each other better.

Lastly, being subtle is also important because it shows you’re socially aware and experienced. If you’re completely overt from the get go, a woman might assume you’ve never had social interactions with other women and you lack experience. That you’re just some guy throwing himself at her without any idea of what a good flirtatious conversation should be like.

Now, at this point, you may understand why it’s important to be subtle and avoid the overtly sexual stuff. But I wanna get more granular so that there’s no room for error.I don’t wanna leave anything to chance. So I’m gonna give you the 4 basic types of flirting mistakes you need to avoid. These are things you absolutely should NOT do when you flirt with a woman.

Using Explicit Language Too Early

As I said, a sexual connection must grow gradually. Your flirting together must start by being implied in innuendo, understood through wordplay, or as playful banter. Being blunt or heavy-handed can feel crude.

So instead of saying something like… “That outfit is so sexy. You’re turning me on so much right now..”

You could glance at her outfit and say… “Wow, It’s getting a little hot in here”.

Both those lines convey the same message essentially. But the first one is too direct. Whereas the second one is more subtle and suggestive, and would almost always be better received by a woman.

Telling Her You’ve Thought of Her Sexually For a Long Time

This is mistake guys make when talking to girls in their social circle or workplace. Basically someone they’ve known for a while. Professing such strong feelings to a female acquaintance or coworker is overwhelming and awkward. She hasn’t felt that same attraction yet.

It’s much better to talk about attractions at the moment which I will describe later.

For now, don’t say stuff like: “I’ve wanted you for months”

Or… “I couldn’t stop thinking about you in that red dress at last year’s new year party”

Or… “I’ve been having dirty dreams about you so often”

Talking About Masturbation

Whether it’s you talking about you masturbating to something or asking her what she gets off to… It’s off the table. No woman would wanna touch that subject unless she’s already involved with you sexually.

This topic can only be discussed once you’ve had sex with her or at least sexted with her.

Unsolicited Dick Pics

Look, I’m not even gonna explain this one. If a woman ever wants to see a picture of your junk, let her ask for it. Until then there’s absolutely no reason to send that picture. It’s not flirty, not sexy, and not gonna do you any favors.

And on that note, I wanna move on to what will be favorable. Now that you know what NOT to do when flirting with a woman… Let’s discuss what tactics actually work. And there are 6 easy and effective flirting tactics that I wanna share with you right now.

These are all proven to work like magic, so read carefully.

Flip The Script

Flipping the script means accusing the girl of flirting with you or having a dirty mind. Everybody has a sexual side. In the right context and when we’re comfortable, it’s fun to be “naughty”. It feels exciting. So when she’s challenging or complimenting you, imply that you know she has more sinister intentions.

So for example, you could say things like… “Look at you trying to flirt with me. So adorable…”

Or… “I know what you’re up to. But I’m not that easy.”

Or… “Do you say this to every cute guy you meet?”

This can open up flirting really fast and be a fun game to play. If she likes it, she may reply one of two ways: She can run with it and say something like, “Oh no, you got me.”

Or she can pretend to deny it and say something like, “What? No way. I’m just a nice, innocent girl from the South. I don’t do stuff like this”

Purposeful Misinterpretation

This is a simple and powerful tactic. What you have to do here is misinterpret what she was saying for something sexual or poke fun at her word choice. In other words, you take her words and pretend like she was saying something more explicit.

While accusing her of thinking dirty implies that she was intentional about it, this is more about her accidentally using more sexual language. Pretend like she was saying something more flirtatious even when she wasn’t. Tease her about saying something that could be seen as sexual.

You want her to get into a playful denial about what she was saying or trying to explain herself.

Some examples of this tactic would be… “I know what a ‘pillow fight’ really means. You can’t fool me”

“Hmm, so you like strawberry flavoured stuff. I see what you mean”.

Or… let’s assume she recommends you a show on Netflix, and you respond by saying…

“Listen, I don’t have the time to Netflix and Chill with you this week. Maybe next week, okay?”

This tactic takes a little bit of practice. But if you’re present in the moment, you’ll find many opportunities to purposefully misinterpret her words.

Bold Compliments

It’s generally better to compliment a woman based on her personality rather than her looks. But that said, a more specific or unique compliment on appearance can work well. It helps to reiterate that you find that quality attractive in her or in general with women.
You can use words like sexy, cute, or feisty. Or you can playfully state that she is making you flustered.

Here are some examples.

“That outfit looks great. I think black is the sexiest colour a woman can wear”
“I’ve such a soft spot for cute little brunettes”
“You’re cute and sexy at the same time. That’s not even fair”.
“Stop being so adorable. You’re gonna make me fall in love”

As you can see, this one’s pretty easy. And women absolutely love it.

Conveying Your Attraction

While talking about how you’ve been fantasizing about her for weeks can be terrifying, suggesting that you’re thinking naughty thoughts in the moment can be quite a bold turn-on. But again, you want it to be subtle. And you only wanna use this tactic after she’s responding well to some light physical contact or suggestive flirting.

Some examples of this tactic would be saying things like…

“If you don’t stop teasing me, I can’t promise I’ll keep being such a nice boy.”
“I have way too many terrible thoughts running through my head.”
“I have to stop myself before I say some bad things.”

In simple words, you’re basically telling that that you’re currently thinking of her in a sexual way or that you’re turned on by her… but you do it in a subtle manner.

Sexual Questions

Talking about sex gets women to think about sex. And if they’re talking about sex with you, they’ll think about sex with you. The easiest way to get into the sexual conversation is through questions. You get her to open up about her sexual side and she asks you about yours.

By being able to discuss those things in a fun, positive way, you’ll reinforce that she experiences good emotions with you. She feels like you have a healthy view on sex and aren’t judgmental – which only makes her further consider getting intimate with you. Your initial questions should be less personal and easier for her to answer.

As long as she’s continuing to be vulnerable with you, you can get more intimate with your inquiries. So you can start with questions like…

How comfortable are you with public affection?
Have you ever gone skinny dipping?
Have you ever had a friend with benefits?
And then you can move onto more personal stuff like…
What unexpected place do you love being touched?
What’s your most awkward or embarrassing sexual experience?
How long do you think you could go without sex?
Have you ever been caught having sex?

You see, it’s a gradual escalation. You climb the ladder slowly. And you make sure she’s comfortable at each step of the way. And that’s it.

That’s how you turn women on with your words. You may feel like it’ll take time to get good at using these methods of flirting…

But my flagship program, which is called The F Formula, can help you download these tactics and many other proven flirting techniques, right into your brain, within a couple of days.

It gives you a simple step-by-step approach to master the art of flirting… and makes it so easy for you… that you don’t even have to think about it.

In other words, The F Formula makes you a natural flirt, so you can talk to women and build attraction without even trying. If that sounds interesting, check out the F Formula.

It has already helped 1000s of guys from around the globe attract, date and sleep with the women they want. And there’s no reason why it can’t do the same for you. You simply follow the steps outlined in the program and you’ll find yourself flirting with women – effortlessly.
You won’t have to worry about what to say and what not to say…

Once you know the F Formula all the guesswork is removed from flirting. You simply follow the formula and the attraction builds on its own. You really have to try it to see it. If you’re tired of not getting the women you want and you refuse to settle for less… I’d recommend you check it out.

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