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When You SHOULDN’T Ask Her Out

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Timing is everything, guys… especially when asking out a woman. Let me tell you what “too soon” and “too late” REALLY means, and how you can successfully hit the sweet spot right in between…

One of the biggest mistakes guys make with women is not asking us out when there’s an open window to do so. The conversation’s going great, we’re laughing and flirting, connecting on a deeper level… this means you’ve got a green light to pull the trigger and ask us out. But at the other end of the spectrum is a different problem. And this is when guys ask us out WAY to soon. Like before the conversation even has a chance to get going, they’re suggesting we get dinner or drinks together.

Let me tell you this:

From a woman’s point of view, this feels SUPER weird and makes us uncomfortable. Because why would you be asking out a complete stranger after only 30 seconds of talking to them? It makes us think you’re either desperate and just try this with every single woman…

Or you just view us as a sexual object you want to conquer, without caring about who we are as a person… since you literally don’t know the first thing about us yet. Aside from that, why would WE agree to go on a date with a guy who makes no attempt to talk and get to know us?

And while this happens regularly in real life situations… It’s 10 times as common on Tinder and other online dating apps and sites. Guys will send in screenshots of their conversations and ask, “Marni, why did she suddenly stop replying?” And I’ll see that literally the second message they send to her is something like… “Hey do you have plans for Saturday night? Let’s grab a drink.”

Many women won’t even bother to respond at that point… because they’ve already been scared off. It feels like you’re trying to pounce on us, like a hunter attacking his prey. Even if your intentions are good, you need to put yourself in our shoes and think about how it makes us feel. So slow down, take your time and actually engage us in a conversation so we can get to know each other a bit. Work in some banter and playful teasing to spark that initial attraction… And try to find some common ground we can connect over so we’ll feel like we have things to talk about if we do go out on a date together.

Plus, if we feel like you have some standards and want to evaluate a woman before rushing to ask her out… It’ll make us feel like you’re a man with options, which is so much more attractive than a guy who wants to take whatever he can get.

Now, I’m not suggesting you use this just as some kind of tactic.

Instead, it should be an authentic part of how you interact with women, based on your own self-worth. You’re a high value man. You don’t have time to go out with EVERY woman who piques your interest. You’re discerning about who you choose to let into your life. This is the attitude and mindset you want to have.

But it’s not coming from a place of arrogance. It’s just that you know you have a lot to offer and you expect the same from the women you date. When you carry yourself in this way and project that aura of confidence, it’s magnetically attractive to us. This is just part of what it means to be a man women want… and it’s the easiest way to have the dating and sex life you dream of.

If you want to discover the complete picture on how to effortlessly have this kind of magnetism with women, go ahead and check out How To Be A Man Women Want.

 

The last female friend you’ll ever need,

~Marni

What She Really Means When She Says THIS

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Can You Take A Hint? If not, you need to learn. Women use a ton of subtext to communicate to a guy wether they're into him or not. If you can learn the “secret” language of women, you can stop wasting your time trying to CONVINCE them to be attracted to you, and start utilizing the techniques that actually MAKE women attracted to you. Read on…

“I don’t have time to date, I’m too busy at work.”

“I’m taking some time to get back in touch with myself.”

“I have a rule that I don’t give my number out to strangers.”

Any of these sound familiar?

If you’re like 99% of men, the answer is yes. And you may have believed her. And tried to change her mind by answering her objection.

Something like:

“Well we can go out on the weekend when you don’t have to work.”

Or:

“But if you give me your number then we won’t be strangers anymore.”

Here’s the problem with that: You’re trying to logically debate her about a fake excuse she made up. Perhaps you’re thinking, Marni, maybe she really was telling the truth.” If that’s what you think, then you need to remember this:

When we’re attracted to a guy enough, we’ll make excuses to see him. When we’re not attracted to a guy enough, we’ll make excuses not to see him. So if it feels like you’re having to convince a woman to give you her number or meet up with you… And she’s giving you reasons as to why she can’t, it almost always means she’s just not into you. It’s crucial to really understand this point, because most men don’t.

I get emails all the time where guys tell me their story. That they met a woman and she seemed really attracted to him, but she had these reasons she couldn’t see him and what can he do to change her mind. But if you have to change her mind, it’s unlikely she was attracted in the first place.

In most of these cases guys are mistaking politeness for attraction.

This is especially the case in situations that require her to be polite… Such as if you’re talking to her at her place of work e.g. she’s a waitress, barista, retail assistant or something similar. It’s her job to talk to you and maybe even flirt a little. And if you ask her out, she’s not going to come right out and say, “Sorry, but I’m just not sexually attracted to you.”

We don’t want to hurt your feelings or risk a confrontation by saying something like that. So it’s easier for most women to make up an excuse to make it seem like it’s not you, just that outside circumstances that are to blame. But unless we’re already in a relationship (if you hear this excuse, it may be the truth) we’re always open to going out with a guy if we like him enough.

Here’s what this means for you:

Any time you hear these false excuses from now on, don’t argue with her about it or try to change her mind. Because not only is it not the real issue anyway… but you’ll get on her nerves by not taking the hint that she’s not interested. Instead, realize it for what it is. She’s communicating that she’s not attracted to you enough to go out with you, and that’s the real issue that you need to change.

That means don’t try and move things forward by asking her out again. Take a step back and focus on creating that sexual attraction that’s lacking. How do you do that? Hands down, the best way is knowing how to flirt with her in the way that she wants.

This is like the secret sauce that creates attraction out of thin air… Meaning it has nothing to do with your looks, money, status, possessions or any of that stuff. It’s about the sexual chemistry you can create with just your words and body language. Now, I show you a proven system for getting this right in my program The F Formula.

So if you want to start enjoying fun and attractive conversations with women everywhere you go…how to flirt with women

And stop hearing those false excuses when you try to take it to the next level, you need to click here and go check it out right now.

 

The last female friend you’ll ever need,

~Marni

The Real Reason Women Reject You

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A man was arrested for hitting on a girl on an airplane. He totally misread her signals and sexualized the whole conversation. Let me tell you exactly what he did wrong, so you NEVER make this mistake and get accused of being a big time CREEP…

So I came across a gross story the other day, and wanted to share it with you… Because it perfectly illustrates the reality many women deal with on a daily basis, starting at a young age.

Here’s what happened:

A teenage girl was on a flight by herself. A guy about 40 years old was seated next to her. He struck up a conversation with her, which a female journalist in the row in front of them overheard. She sensed something wasn’t right, and began tweeting about what was happening. Apparently the teen girl was friendly, which the guy mistook for interest. So he started teasing her and asking her out, which the girl ignored.

At this point she’s probably scared and doesn’t know what to do. Instead of realizing he’s making her uncomfortable, what does this creep do? He asks her to show him a dirty photo of herself. Like WTF dude, seriously?! In what universe does that seem even remotely appropriate?Anyway, the journalist stepped in to help the teen and got the flight attendants involved. It became a big scene where they threatened to land the plane if he didn’t move, and the police were waiting for him on arrival.

Now, you might think this type of situation isn’t very common. But the same journalist from this story revealed she had a similar thing happen when flying alone as a teen. Not once, but twice. Sadly, this type of unwanted attention is something we have to deal with. Starting when we’re just young girls. So we quickly learn that if we’re friendly to a guy, he’ll usually mistake it as something more. And then it turns creepy.

The reason I’m telling you all this is so you can understand what it’s like from our point of view when you approach and talk to us.

Imagine we’ve had a decade or two of those kinds of creepy experiences already.

We know there’s a good chance that when a guy approaches us it’s because he wants to sleep with us. So it’s only natural for us to have our guard up somewhat. If you want to get past that — and have a real conversation with us — it usually takes more than just saying hello and expecting we’ll be grateful for the chance to talk to you. It takes more than a random pickup line that sounds like the kind of thing you’d say to every woman. The first step in getting us to go out with you, is knowing how to stand out and get our attention…

And from there, you need to know how to read our signals so you can respond appropriately. (Hint: asking for dirty photos, or trying to sexualize the conversation in any way, is the last thing you should be doing when she’s ignoring your suggestions for a date.)

Listen, I understand that it can feel personal when you approach a woman and she either ignores you… or responds with indifference. But most of the time it’s because you’re doing the same things as the countless other guys she’s rejected in the past. You’re triggering her unconscious to lump you in with them and treat you accordingly. That’s why you need to understand what we really want in a man and know how to communicate it right from the start.

This issue prevents most men from consistently getting great results with the women they want… And it’s what drove me to create the solution, How To Become A Man Women Want.

Because when you get this down, everything else is smooth sailing.

Instead of seeing you the same as all the other men we’ve rejected, we immediately know that you’re different… and that’s when we respond with warmth and enthusiasm to your approach… As well as make it easy for you to start flirting with us and escalate things to a more intimate level.

Are you ready to become this type of man and transform your life with women forever?

If you’re up to the challenge, then click here for all the details on How To Become A Man Women Want.

 

The last female friend you’ll ever need,

~Marni

How To Make Women Addicted To You

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If you want to make a woman feel excited about being with you, you have to take her on a rollercoaster of emotions. Just being “nice” and romantic all the time gets really old… really fast. Here are my tips for how to keep a woman emotionally engaged, and have her craving more of you.

Want to know the secret to being the man that women become addicted to? It’s not about being the best looking guy… Or having the money to buy us whatever we want… And it’s not even about being amazing in bed (although that certainly helps!) No, if you want to make women addicted to you, it comes down to one thing:

Knowing how to make us feel the complete range of emotions we’re capable of feeling.

That includes positive AND negative emotions, as counterintuitive as that may sound. And this is where a lot of guys go wrong. They only focus on trying to make us feel good… and steer clear of anything that might lead to negative emotions. You might get away with that over the course of an hour or so when we first meet… But beyond that, it starts to get boring. Think of a roller coaster ride, for example. If you spent the whole ride only on the ascent, and it finished right there, it’d be a huge disappointment. You need to have those fast descents, twists and turns and flipping upside down to give you the full emotional experience. Without that, then it’s not nearly as thrilling.

And relationships are the same way. If we always know what to expect, and there’s never any drama or tension, we’ll usually feel something is lacking. This is one of the major reasons why bad boys are so tempting for most women. Bad boys aren’t always treading on eggshells, afraid of saying or doing something that’ll upset us… And it means we get to be angry at them sometimes. They also get attention from other women, and we’ll definitely feel jealous at times. We also get to feel excited, sad, horny, afraid, surprised, anticipation and a range of other feelings when dating a bad boy. This is the kind of emotional roller coaster ride that causes us to feel addicted to a guy.

Whereas the typical nice guy would prefer things to be safe and happy all the time i.e. a roller coaster without any of the exciting parts.

Now, if you’re thinking that this sounds crazy… and you’d rather have a relationship that’s always on an even keel… There is a small percentage of women who’d like the same thing. But the overwhelming majority will simply be bored to tears before long. And if you don’t help us feel all of these emotions, we’ll usually create ways to do it ourselves. That’s why sometimes your girlfriend will seem upset or angry, and you have no idea what caused it. Sometimes we’ll create drama out of nothing just because we want to FEEL something different.

This is just human nature for most women.

So rather than fighting against it, learn how to use it to your advantage. Because when you do, YOU’LL become one of the rare men that women feel addicted to. And I don’t use the term ‘addicted’ lightly. Studies show that we can become addicted to the different emotions we feel, the same we can be addicted to drugs, alcohol or food. The chemical reaction in our body is just the same… Meaning if you know how to give us the hit of emotions we crave, we’ll always turn to you for our next fix.

So what are some positive ways you can take us on an emotional rollercoaster ride? Let’s take a look at a few things you can do:

  • Tease her
  • Share personal stories that have different emotional experiences
  • Surprise her with something unexpected
  • Playfully tell her why you could never date her
  • Look at other women from time to time
  • Tell her what makes her stand out from other women
  • Pick her up and carry her to the bedroom (when the time is right)
  • Disagree with her about something
  • Don’t back down if she challenges you on something
  • Mix up your response times when texting her
  • Take her out on a date but don’t tell her where you’re going
  • Discuss each other’s fears, desires and dreams
  • Give her your full attention like she’s the only woman in the world

Those are just a few ideas to get you started.

And this is something that works whether you’re just meeting and getting to know a woman… Or you’ve been in a relationship for 20 years. Get in the habit of providing this emotional rollercoaster experience from now on and you’ll be amazed at the difference it makes. Of course, this subject is only ONE of the things that women want, but will rarely tell you.

Want to know the rest?

Some women may not be happy that I’m revealing all our secrets for you right here… But I firmly believe that you having access to this insider information will also benefit the women you meet as well. That’s why I’m holding nothing back and giving you the no-holds-barred truth on what women want, once and for all.

Click here and strap yourself in for the ride.

The last female friend you’ll ever need,

~Marni

Why Women Ghost Men

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Getting ghosted after a date is something that is happening more and more frequently in our modern age. There is one main reason women ghost men, but fortunately there are many ways that a man can deal with it. Read on to learn how…

One of the questions men are asking me more often is what to do when they get ‘ghosted’. If you’re not familiar with the term, ghosting is when someone you’re dating stops all contact with you… Essentially, they disappear from your life, as if they died and became a ghost.

What makes ghosting so hurtful is the person you care about suddenly acts like you don’t exist… and you don’t get the chance for closure and to move on. At least when someone breaks up with you, then you can discuss things and find out why they’re ending it. But with ghosting, you don’t get your questions answered. And you’re left wondering what exactly went wrong and why they don’t want to see you anymore. Men and women are both equally guilty of this, by the way. I think it’s a horrible thing to do someone, and wish people could be more mature in ending things.

But the fact is ghosting is a part of the modern dating reality, and it doesn’t make sense to simply ignore it. So when guys ask me why they got ghosted and what to do about it, here’s what it usually boils down to:

She wasn’t attracted to you any longer and didn’t know how to tell you. 90% of the time, that’s all there is to it. It could be that you were being too needy… or didn’t confidently get physical when you had the chance… or were boring and predictable… or acted too negative and gloomy… or any number of things that could have killed her attraction for you. Whatever the reason, you’re now in a weak position.

So how do you turn things around?

As always, the best solution is to avoid getting into that situation in the first place. (For more info on how best to do that, you’ll want to check this out.)

But assuming it’s too late for that, the first step is to resist the temptation to reach out in a needy way. For example, texting her: “Why won’t you talk to me? What did I do wrong?” That comes across as desperate and unattractive, and will only push her away further. And especially if she ghosted you because you were too needy and weak, this is the worst thing you can do. Instead, take some time to let your emotions settle before doing anything. Think things through. Realize that somewhere along the way you did — or didn’t do — something that changed how she feels about you. Ideally you’ll be able to realize where you messed up so you can figure out what to do differently.

But if you’re really at a loss, it’s probably a sign you need to work on your understanding of what women find attractive in men.

Then, take some time before you get in touch with her… To let whatever recent negative feelings she has towards you die down a little. If she’s still friends with you on Facebook or following you on Instagram, you can post some photos showing you’re having fun and enjoying your life… And it’ll at least show her you’re not at home crying into your pillow every night because you miss her. Best case scenario is she reaches out to you first and you can take things from there. Otherwise you can send her a text or social media message. Keep it light, fun and don’t get into the negative stuff of her disappearing on you. If she responds, great. Keep the messages fun, flirt a little, and suggest meeting for a drink when the time feels right. If she doesn’t respond, it’s best to accept that it’s over and move on. You can’t always control how another person feels and not every situation is fixable.

However, it’s worth thinking about if she’s someone you’d like to be with anyway. Because if she’s already ghosted you once, there’s a chance she may do it again. It’s a pretty reliable sign she’s not great at communication within a relationship, and it could lead to problems further down the road. Just something to think about. And remember, there are PLENTY of other single and attractive women out there.

Often it’s better to start fresh with someone new rather than trying to make something work when it’s just not a good fit. And when you have a lot more choice in the women you date, you’ll naturally end up in better relationships.a man women want

So if you want to have more power and choice in who you date, click here and I’ll show you how to get exactly that.

 

The last female friend you’ll ever need,

~Marni

The Proven Formula For Approaching Women

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I love when men share their success stories with me about women. Especially when I find out the reason for their success is that they used my super easy, fool-proof approach technique. Here's what happened recently with one of my clients:

The best part of my job is getting to read all the testimonials from guys who practice what I preach. You have no idea how rewarding I find it when someone tells me how much his life has changed… not just with women, but in how he feels about himself. So I asked one of these recent success stories if he could share exactly what’s made everything click for him. Here is what he said:

“Honestly, it's OSA. Also just how I view myself and I've taken women off the pedestal without disrespecting them. I also make fun of myself while complimenting them…sly smirk comes naturally to me and If I see a woman I'm even slightly attracted to and have something to say with a window of appropriate opportunity I do it.

“And every interaction I have I do a self review and get more comfortable. It's awesome. I'm really just being myself. I've trusted what you say because your a beautiful, intelligent and sexy woman and when I implement what you say I have success which grows my confidence. I don't have any expectation when I approach and as I'm getting more comfortable I'm able to banter and carry on a conversation more and if it’s not clicking or i can tell she's not into i politely bail without judgment to her or myself.”

Seriously, I LOVE when a man has this kind of attitude to women and dating… Where he can let go of all his hangups and just go out there and be himself while having fun with women. This is truly what it means to be in the moment and not give a f*ck about the outcome. And I’m not the only one that loves it. Women are magnetically attracted to men who have this kind of playful energy and vibe. It’s so refreshing compared to all the other men who are either super serious, overly anxious, or just stare and don’t even talk to us at all.

Oh, and in case you’re wondering what ‘OSA’ refers to at the start of his message…

This is my acronym for the method I teach on how to approach women. It stands for observe, share, ask… and it’s the simplest and most effective technique to connect with women in a genuine and authentic way.

If you’d like to find out exactly how it works, as well as everything you’ll ever need to successfully approach women, check out The Approach Blueprint here.

Now, there are a couple of key mindsets mentioned above that I want you to take note of. The first is that he approaches women whenever he’s even slightly attracted and there’s an opportunity to do so. This is a huge part of having success with women… Understanding that there are countless opportunities staring you in the face every day. And that the more you practice approaching and having conversations, the better at it you’ll get.

Which brings us to the second key mindset. If my student senses she’s not into it, he politely bails with no judgement towards himself or her. So many guys never get anywhere because the thought of a random woman not being super receptive just destroys them. But sometimes that’s just out of your control. She could be running late for work… in a happy relationship… not into men at all… her dog just died… or any number of other reasons as to why she’s not in the mood to talk. Instead of judging her and thinking, man, what a bitch… Or judging yourself, I’m such a loser, no woman would ever want me… Just realize that sometimes an approach won’t lead anywhere, and it doesn’t have to be an indictment on either of you.

When you give yourself permission to take action without needing a specific result… it frees you up from a lot of the anxiety and fear that holds you back. Plus, it gives you an aura of confidence and indifference that we find sexy in a man. So when you internalize these two mindsets… As well as use the OSA formula to make approaching women easy and fun…

Suddenly meeting, attracting and dating women becomes a whole lot less confusing and scary.

It’s why my students who have been through The Approach Blueprint are having the time of their life with women every day… Without having to change who they are or do anything weird, complicated or sleazy. So if this natural and fun way of  meeting and attracting women sounds like a good fit for you, click here for all the details and let’s make it happen together.

The last female friend you’ll ever need,

~Marni

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