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I remember watching the movie, “Love Potion #9” when I was a kid and thinking, “OMG I have to get my hands on that secret formula!”…only to find out years later in high school that NO SUCH FORMULA exists…
Until now (mwahaha!)
I recently came across this article about how to scientifically MAKE someone fall in love with you…
And after reading it, I realized that science has basically proven that everything I teach you works (which, let’s face it, we already knew 😉 )
I cut out a piece of the article and added my own added tips and commentary.
So if you’re the guy who’s been struggling in the Friend Zone for awhile…or maybe you have your eye on a girl that you ABSOLUTELY cannot screw things up with…then you need to check this out now.
How To Make Someone Fall In Love With You, According To Science
By: Eric Barker
Let’s check out the specifics of how to make someone fall in love with you:
Being nearby helps a lot. Yeah, unromantic and obvious but if you’re looking for love, definitely ask yourself where you’re spending your time.
In another study, conducted in Columbus, Ohio, in the 1950s, 431 couples who applied for marriage licenses were interviewed. It turned out that 54 percent of the couples were separated by a distance of 16 blocks or fewer when they first went out together, and 37 percent were separated by a distance of five blocks or fewer. The number of marriages decreased as the distance increased between the couples’ places of residence.
Who becomes friends in the dorms at college? People who are similar? No. People who are nearby.
Two factors appeared to exercise the greatest influence on personal relationships: the location of the apartments and the distances between them. The most important factor in determining who would be emotionally close to whom was the distance between their apartments. [Falling in Love: Why We Choose the Lovers We Choose]
What underlies this? Obviously, you have to meet, but there’s something else going on: repeated exposure.
As marketers know very well (and anyone looking for love should learn about marketing), repeated exposure makes us like almost anything.
Repeated exposure, it turns out, increases our liking for practically everything, from the routine features of our lives to decorating materials, exotic foods, music, or people.
“What about that annoying person at work, huh? I see them all the time and I don’t fall in love with them.”
True. Repeated exposure amplifies whatever is already there.
…repeated exposure intensifies the dominant emotion in the relationship. When the dominant emotion is anger, repeated exposure enhances the anger. When the dominant emotion is attraction, repeated exposure enhances the attraction.
MY COMMENTS: This is so unbelievably true…and the reason why we tend to find love in college and even at work…
It’s ALSO the reason you have an added advantage if you’re already in the Friend Zone or working with her!
Just think about all those romantic comedies where in the end, the girl finally “wakes up” and realizes that her Prince Charming was right in front of her all along…
(Trust me when I say that every girl fantasizes about having a “When Harry Met Sally” moment in her life.)
So if you’re at the point where you already know her and see her enough consistently…chances are you’re just ONE STEP AWAY from getting her to fall for you…
But I’ll get into that little trick later 😉
How to make someone fall in love with you? Being attractive helps, no doubt. Make yourself look good. What’s news about that?
Guys, you may not be putting in enough effort.
The stereotype that men are more focused on beauty than women proves out – but not nearly as much as you might think.
Tell women they’re connected to a lie detector and they are far more likely to say physical attractiveness is important.
When the women thought they were connected to a lie detector, they admitted being more influenced by the physical attractiveness of the men and described physically attractive men as more desirable. When they were not connected to the apparatus, women tended to underreport the impact of the men’s physical attractiveness on their preferences. Apparently, a social norm tends to inhibit, especially women, from admitting the importance of physical attraction.
MY COMMENTS: Basically what you’re hearing is that while women THINK it’s important to go for the gorgeous Brad Pitt’s and Channing Tatum’s of the world…they really could care less when it comes to love.
I’ll say this over and over again…for women…LOOKS DON’T MATTER!
It’s why you see supermodels with balding, overweight guys…
When it comes to love, women pay attention to how you make them FEEL.
And if you know how to set off her attraction triggers, you can make her fall madly in love with you from just one conversation…
Even if you’ve got Dorito stains on your shirt that barely covers your bulging belly 🙂
Any type of situation that affects us emotionally increases the chance of falling in love.
In one-fifth of the romantic attraction interviews, the relationships described started during stormy periods in the lives of the men and women interviewed. Sometimes, the heightened emotional sensitivity followed an experience of loss, such as the death of a parent or a painful breakup.
This is why people fall in love on the rebound. This is why we see Stockholm Syndrome. This is one of the reasons musicians are more attractive.
We can’t really tell what is causing our feelings and we have to guess. It’s called misattribution of emotions. So any emotionally arousing situation has the potential to fool us into thinking we’re in love.
When we are aroused, the origin of the arousal does not matter, and it does not matter whether we are aware of the reason. Arousal automatically reinforces our natural response, including attraction to a potential partner.
Even an action movie can do it.
Some of the couples watched an action movie; others watched a movie that was less arousing. It turns out that the couples who watched the arousing action movie expressed more affection toward each other after the movie than they did before seeing it. The nonaction movie had no effect on the amount of affection expressed by the couples who watched it.
MY COMMENTS: I actually just said the same thing about looks…
When you can arouse STRONG feelings in a woman…there’s really no stopping you from making her yours.
It’s the reason why girls fall for wild and crazy musicians or womanizing jerks…because THESE guys elicit emotions and reactions in women that FORCES them to feel something for them…even if these emotions aren’t always positive.
It’s also the reason why “playing it safe” and “not coming off as too forward” are gonna work against you.
But there’s a way to elicit STRONG emotions in women WITHOUT being a rock star or jerk…and if you’re the guy who can be the calm, confident, RESPECTFUL man who ALSO knows how to make a woman FEEL something for you…then you’ll be the man that every woman wants.
I really loved this article because it highlighted everything I talk to you about already.
If you’re already close to a woman proximity-wise…you’re already close enough to make her yours.
But sadly, most guys just fall victim to the Friend Zone…to becoming the “Nice Guy” without ever getting the woman he wants…and watching close by as she repeatedly falls for OTHER guys instead of him.
And I’m here to put an end to you NOT getting the girl you want.
I’ll say over and over again, women don’t care about looks, about the nice things you repeatedly do as their “friend,”…
They pay attention to how you make them FEEL!
And the ONLY way to arouse a deep need to you in ANY WOMAN you come across…is to know exactly how a woman THINKS and what she wants.
And you know I have no shortage of information to give you based on the female side of things.
So if you really want the full scoop on what really drives us ladies wild…and what makes us wildly, passionately, excitedly in love with a man…
(A man we wanna hug and kiss and adore and buy sexy lingerie for!)
Check out my book “Get Inside Her: Dirty Dating Tips & Secrets From a Woman”:
And sit back, relax, and enjoy having your girl in your arms once and for all once you finally have what it takes to make her fall head-over-heels in love with you.