From now on when you are out and about or at a bar, a coffee shop, the super market – ANYWHERE – be open. Smile, keep your head up, don’t cross your arms and say hi to everyone. If you look more approachable, men will approach you. If you see a guy that you find cute, smile coyly at him and if he doesn’t approach you, approach him and say hi.
I have one cute story to share about my sister in law. My sister in law is awesome. She’s super cute, totally chatty and an amazing mother. So naturally her friends want to set her up with any single guy friends they have. So my sister in law went on a date with a guy that she has met through her friends and met once before. 20 minutes into the date she excused herself from the table and called me from the washroom. She told me that the guy she was on a date with would not shut up and she was upset because he was so cute but the chatty kathy routine and not letting her talk was turning her off. She asked me what she could do to get him to be quite.
I told her a little secret about men that most women don’t know. Men get nervous too! And what they do when they get nervous is they try to avoid silences because for them, silences signal bored or not going well. So I told her to go back to the table and when he starts talking, she can touch his arm gently for 1 – 2 seconds and he will calm down immediately. My sister in law called me 4 hours later and said “your voodoo magic worked” he calmed down and we had a great time.
Men are not as subtle as us, so the little things we do to signal “I like you” or “I’m having fun” totally go over their head. Plus, when they are so focused on making you happy they tend to forget on actually connecting. If you can help a brother out and not so subtly signal “I’m here too and I’m having a good time” it will calm him down immediately so that his best side can shine. Trust me, you’ll get a lot out of man who is calm and confident you are enjoying yourself.
So you can:
1. Touch him
2. Make warm eye contact
3. Use your words to tell him what you think
Easy right!!! Leave the subtle signals for your girlfriend because men are never going to pick them up!